Are we enjoying the small things, which become the big things?

Painting by Belynda Wilson Thomas

Let me tell you something big: Give importance to little things! Mehmet Murat Ildan

Fitting everything we need to do isn’t always easy, but sometimes I ask myself, what am I so busy doing? Life seems to expand what we have to do to fit the time we have to do it in, regardless of how much we accomplish. How do people who accomplish so much do it? How much of my time is spent smelling the roses, having coffee and a chat, and how much of my day is actually productive?

What makes a productive day? Doing things that can wait until tomorrow or making connections with people that can only happen today? We celebrated a friend’s birthday on Saturday, met some interesting people, and talked to a retired couple who’ve created a great retirement life. On Facebook, I see posts and pictures of people traveling to faraway places, not only retired couples but young people just starting.

Listening to an author the other day, he said he realized he doesn’t love travelling, what he loves is the freedom from work that he feels when he’s on vacation. He was on vacation, playing with one of his kids, having the best day, when he realized he could play with his kids when he wasn’t on vacation, and it would be just as much fun. The vacation gave him the freedom to do it; he just had to build that kind of freedom into his daily life.

When we look at the things in life we get the most enjoyment from, it often isn’t the outside things like what building we are looking at we’ve never seen before, it is who we are with, the sense of adventure of doing something together, and often we can have adventures close to or far from home. Are we saving the enjoyment of things for vacation and holidays when some of that enjoyment we could have any day we choose?

We must not, in trying to think about how we can make a big difference, ignore the small daily differences we can make which, over time, add up to big differences that we often cannot foresee. Marian Wright Edelman

What are we not enjoying about where we live that are open to us? Many things cost a lot of money we might wish we could do, but what about the many simple things that are free or close to free, we might enjoy? The more we enjoy the simple things in life, the better our lives will be. Is an expensive dinner out that much more enjoyable than finding a little café for coffee, tea, and a pastry, cake, or other delectable concoction? Would we enjoy it more if it were in Paris than somewhere local we’ve never been?

We might think creating an adventurous life is something that happens over there, far from where we live, but what if all we need to do is change the way we look at things to bring more adventure and joy into our lives?

Life is about choices and dealing with the hand we are dealt. We might look at other people’s lives and think, they’ve got a really great life, but everyone has their own challenges and problems. We don’t know the struggles someone else is going through, and they often don’t know ours. If we knew everything about someone else’s life, would we still think it is better than our own? When we see people whose lives we think are worth emulating, how can we bring some of that into our own lives?

What would we still like to do in life, where would we like to go, and what adventures do we want to have, close or far from home? If we could live anywhere, where would we choose, and what would make it better than where we live now? Are we getting as much joy out of each day as we can? Are we having coffee and conversations with people while they are with us, and taking our grandchildren to the park? One day, we might have time to take our grandchildren to the park, but they will be the ones no longer wanting to go with us, because they have more fun things to do.

If we have time for them when they are young, perhaps they will have time for us when we are old.

Enjoy the little things in life because one day you’ll look back and realize they were the big things. Kurt Vonnegut

The small things of life were often so much bigger than the great things… trivial pleasure like cooking, one’s home, little poems, especially sad ones, solitary walks, funny things seen and overheard. Barbara Pym

Find magic in the little things, and the big things you always expected will start to show up. Isa Zapata

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Choosing happiness, enjoying all there is to enjoy in life.

Painting by Belynda Wilson Thomas

Happiness is not a goal… It’s a by-product of a life well lived. Unknown

Can we be happy, and wring as much joy out of our lives as possible? Is this how happy couples stay happy? They do things which bring joy into their lives, so they aren’t looking at other people having all the fun and feel they are missing out?

It is easy to feel we are missing out, wallow in self-pity, and feel the good years are gone, but happiness isn’t only for the young. Many people enjoy their older years the most. How can we be one of those people?

I think one of the things we have to do is take advantage of the opportunities that present themselves. My husband and I were offered tickets to the Argo Football game on Saturday, and then on Friday night, we realized Nuit Blanche (an outdoor event where art installations are installed throughout the city) was happening the same evening. The buses ran late, and the event took place from 7 pm to 7am. It was a wonderful evening, more like summer than fall.

One of the things we did when we were young was go downtown and walk. It was wonderful walking the streets on Saturday evening, young and old walked, taking in the sights. It makes me wonder, if I were responsible for an art installation that would only be up for one evening, what could I come up with?

If we don’t take advantage of what life offers, we can miss out. It is easy not to bother to make an effort in many areas of our lives. I’m watching videos on how to get rid of the frump in my wardrobe. Frump can creep in, and remaining stylish at any age is a worthy goal. Looking like we’ve given up on life isn’t good for us or the people around us.

I hear talk of effortless chic. Is that a thing? Is effortless anything possible? We need to put some effort into our lives if we want to make something better. Is there such a thing as effortless exercise, effortless healthy eating, or effortless success?

Nothing in the world is as contagious as laughter and good humour. Charles Dickens

Thanksgiving is coming up and someone is going to put in a lot of effort to create a wonderful dinner. If no effort is put into it, there won’t be a Thanksgiving dinner with loved ones around the table. No effort, gives no results. If we want to live a great life, we have to be willing to put the effort in to reap the rewards.

If we take a look at our lives, are there areas that need elevating? Are we tired of cooking the same old thing? There are resources for meal planning, and one way to cheat is by looking at websites offering food delivery to see what menus they’ve put together, giving us an idea of what we might want to add to our menu.

One couple uses meal delivery as a date night activity. They order the kit and cook together, making something at home instead of eating out. This sounds like fun, and doing things together makes everything more fun. Trying new recipes is an adventure, and having new adventures is one way to keep life interesting.

What small steps can we take that will pay big rewards? Can we laugh more, encourage others more, and enjoy life more? What would it take to get a little more out of life?

The secret of happiness is this: Let your interests be as wide as possible, and let your reactions to the things and persons that interest you be as far as possible friendly rather than hostile. Bertrand Russell

Happiness is not out there, it’s in you! Louise Armstrong

If happiness truly consisted in physical ease and freedom from care, then the happiest individual would not be either a man or a woman: it would be I think, an American cow. William Lyon Phelps

What can be added to the happiness of a man who is in health, out of debt, and has a clear conscience? Adam Smith

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