Every choice we make has consequences. Not choosing is still a choice. Choices create our destiny.

Choices create our destiny. Every choice we make has consequences. Not choosing is still a choice.

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Sometimes it’s the smallest decisions that can change your life forever. Keri Russell

An early morning walk with a canine friend is one of the great joys of the day.  I was missing out on this because I wasn’t bothering. I wasn’t bothering to get up, and I wasn’t bothering to take the time when I did get up to go for a little walk that starts my whole day better, and my dog’s day better.

We walk past lovely homes, with lovely trees and flowers. The display of lilacs is incredible. One homes Iris’s are so big and beautiful they can hardly stand up. Some homes have no plantings, some are profusely planted, and I wonder what will this look like in ten years?

I’m late this year getting my garden in. I don’t plant much, tomatoes, basil, and parsley. I may pick up some other plants. Roses caught my attention. I had a Bonica rose I loved that died a few years ago. There they were potted roses for $5.99 each. I bought two and then when I figured out where I would plant them I went back and bought the last two Bonica roses. A profusion of roses in my back yard is what I envision later on.

If we wonder if abundance is the expectation we should have for our lives, when we look at nature, it is exuberantly abundant. Nothing in nature grows for itself alone. Everything serves a greater purpose. We need to be careful in our own lives we don’t try and create things for ourselves alone. We all have something to give and when we give it freely someone will be helped, inspired, have something to purchase, eat, look at, read, listen to, or be transported somewhere. All of our gifts, talents, work, industry, ideas, build all that we have.

Money is how we exchange our ideas, goods, creations, and labor. Instead of having to find the farmer that needs our services we can pay him money so he can buy what services he wants. Would we want to have to search for a Doctor that needs the product we produce before we could enlist their services?

When we provide a lot of services to a lot of people we amass a lot of money. If we provide a service to a few people we will have less money. If we can’t figure out how to provide any service to anyone we will have no money.

Life is about choices. Some we regret some we’re proud of. Some will haunt us forever. The message: We are what we chose to be. Graham Brown

When we look at some of the people we think are overpaid like professional athletes. They provide something we are willing to pay for. They provide entertainment, and because that entertainment can be so widely viewed each person paying a little for the entertainment means it is highly remunerated.

Abundance is all around us, we all have the same abundant 24 hours to do with what we please, what is required, and necessary. In those 24 hours, there is some choice, and it is those choices where we develop our lives. Some choose to exercise their bodies, minds, creativity, problem-solving, some choose to be entertained, some choose to build relationships, some choose to have new and different experiences. Is there a right choice, probably not, it’s our life, our choice, but shouldn’t we be happy with the choices we make?

Our life is our choice in many ways; after we do what we need to do to keep body and soul together we have choices in how we spend the rest of our day. Those choices add up, one choice upon another. This is our life, looking back it is the sum of the choices we made, going forward it will be the sum of the choices we make. If we think it doesn’t look exactly how we would like it to look, what different choices do we need to make?

What would we like our life to look like in ten years? We are going there anyway if we are lucky, we can put some time into designing it. If there are things we think, wouldn’t it be nice if we could? Whatever that is, chances are we can bring it into our lives in some way.

Can we become a professional athlete, probably not? Can we find sports to play, and enjoy being part of a team with the thrill of winning and losing, probably? Our life is what we make it; can we bring more of what we love into our lives? Can we live more, laugh more, experience more, dream more, create more, and enjoy more? The choice is ours, and we make these choices every day.

In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility. Eleanor Roosevelt

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A merry heart doeth good like a medicine.

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Life is full of happiness and tears; be strong and have faith. Kareena Kappor Khan

Time goes by, sometimes the days creep but the years fly. Yesterday the clock went back. Was that extra hour filled with fun, enjoyment, and laughter? Laughter is the best medicine. A merry heart doeth good like a medicine, but a broken spirit drieth the bones.

When people get up in age we can see their life story written on their faces. Those who have a merry heart have a different look than those who have had a hard, unhappy life.

My husband said to me one day, “I want to see that smile on your face again, when you’re happy you have a glow.” When I ‘m happy I feel better, everything feels better, everything looks better, especially my husband.

Wayne Dyor tells us when we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change. I believe him. This is why we are more in control of our life than we think or want to believe. If we are in control why aren’t we in love with every day?

I know sometimes I like to wallow in misery. I have even brought up subjects I know I shouldn’t, subjects I said I wouldn’t. Why did I do that? Not because I wanted to have a happier day. It must be because I was feeling mean and horrible and I wanted to make someone else feel mean and horrible too. It worked and we spent a mean and horrible day together. Just that morning we’d hugged and said, “today is going to be a good day.”

Why would we choose to be miserable when we can choose to be happy? This is a question that has been asked down the ages? Is it just people with easy lives that are happy? It seems to me people with equally difficult lives can choose to be happy or not. People with easy lives don’t always choose to be happy.

Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life. Omar Khayyam

In Stumbling On Happiness the author tells us we are as happy after six months as we were before either a happy or catastrophic event. So if you aren’t happy now and you win six million dollars you won’t be any happier then. If something catastrophic happens in six months you will adjust and you will be just as happy in your altered circumstances as you were before. We are very adaptable, but it seems we might have a happiness set point that outside events don’t change. We need to change this from the inside if it is to change.

My mom is a happy person; my dad was a happy person. I am blessed to have a natural happy, optimistic outlook on life.

Some people believe we can choose to be happy. Other people believe if it were that easy we would all choose to be happy. Can we choose to be miserable as we pet our beloved dog? Can we choose to be joyous as we attend a funeral? Could we make our self feel jealous as we enjoy our favorite fun activity? If we can’t manufacture these emotions why would we think someone else can just choose to be happy?

Some part of feeling happy probably comes from knowing we can deal with whatever comes. If we believe, no matter what life throws at us we will have the strength to deal with it, we have resilience. When we have resilience we can be relaxed and happy because we aren’t worried about everything.

I found a blog The Umpteen Keys to happiness by Mark Avery. He has written a book which you can read on his blog. His sister committed suicide. He has more understanding of profound unhappiness than most of us because of his sister.

He doesn’t believe we just choose happiness. We have to build resilience. If his sister were still alive today he doesn’t think he could help her. If someone applies the umpteen keys in his book he believes they are less likely to be depressed. His big suggestion for dealing with someone who is depressed is, don’t remind them others are in worse circumstances. Ask them how they are doing and listen. Asking questions is better than offering advice. When we are asked questions we can come up with answers.

Answers can become solutions. This can lead to small changes. We can’t make anyone else change. We can only change our self, and they can only change them self.

Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present. Jim Rohn

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