Set a goal and move in the direction of your dreams.

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If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy, and inspires your hopes. Andrew Carnegie

On Friday I got home and my husband and son asked what did I order from Indigo? A box was on my desk that looked to be from Indigo. My son quickly opened the box. In it were 12 books meant to go to Indigo from Harper Collins. “The Day the World Came to Town 9/11 in Gander Newfoundland by Jim DeFede. I delivered the books to Indigo.

Someday maybe I will be delivering my own books to Indigo. Should I have asked if they stocked books by independent local authors? Should I have taken a copy of my book to show her? Was it a missed opportunity?

What do missed opportunities look like? If we recognised things as opportunities would we still miss them? Opportunities are probably all around us that someone else might jump on.

I’ve spent the weekend editing and reading my second novel Secrets and Sorrow before I give it to my book club to read. Reading it aloud makes me find errors easier than reading silently. I’ve almost finished illustrating the children’s book I’m working on. A year has flown by since the publication of Secrets and Silence.

Setting measurable goals this year made a big difference in my writing. Instead of meandering, I had markers along the way to track my progress. Smart goals are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-bound. Why has it taken me so long to be willing to set and hold myself to achieving goals? Life is a learning experience and there is so much to learn and so many people willing to teach us. Every book has a message. There are seminars to take, coaches, and mentors to find.

The course through the Art Gallery of Mississauga has an ongoing component where they are trying to help us achieve the next steps. One way to achieve the next step is to know what the next step is. We may wish our life would change for the better but what have we put out into the world that can change? Have we planted seeds that can sprout and grow?

The Church of the Rock pastor Mark Hughes spoke about how many of us don’t get a harvest in our lives because we eat our seed. The other mistake we make is not planting what we hope to harvest. We worry about putting our work into the world but how can anyone read our book, buy our song, or our product, if we don’t find a way to take it to market. Are we waiting for our ship to come in, without ever sending one out?

You have to set goals that are almost out of reach. If you set a goal that is attainable without much work or thought. You are stuck with something below your true talent and potential. Steve Garvey

It took me eight years to write and publish my first book and 12 years of writing before that before I put anything out into the world. What was I afraid of? We aren’t the same person in the middle of something or the end of something we were when we started. My son encouraged me to write a blog long before I sent out the first post.  What would I write about? With over 700 posts out there it seems a silly question but at the time I couldn’t imagine coming up with topics.

Wherever we find our self there is a next step for us to take. There is a goal to set and reach. We might forget that we don’t have to meander along in life and setting goals is the antidote to aimless wandering. For many people deciding to get married sets them on a path, they’ve set a goal, they’ve chosen a partner for the journey of life.

Marriage is a good example of something that changes us we hope for the better. On Saturday my husband and I will be present at a wedding. My son and his fiancé are planning theirs. It is lovely to see young couples and sometimes old couples take this step. Is there any step in life as full of hope as a wedding?

You can, you should, and if you’re brave enough to start, you will… Stephen King

Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible. Tony Robbins

People with goals succeed because they know where they are going. Earl Nightingale

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Life is making decisions. The better we are at making decisions, the better our life will be.

The better we are at making decisions, the better our life will be. Life is making decisions.

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All my life, whenever it comes time to make a decision, I made it and forget about it. Harry S. Truman

It all starts with a decision. Most of our life is because of the decisions we have made. If we want a different life we are going to have to make different decisions. Nothing happens until something happens. We can spend our lives revising and editing but never actually do anything with our work. We can say we are trying to build an audience but unless we have something for people to experience there can be no audience. 

We can have all kinds of excuses for why we are not ready to do something. How many years can we tell ourselves and others we are still editing our novel? We are still practicing, we are still just dating, we still want to start that business but the time isn’t right.

There will be no perfect time to get married, have a child, publish a book, launch a band, start a business, or buy a house. We have now and there is a beginning, middle, and end-stage, and when we get to the end stage of something we need to get ready to launch. Once we launch whatever it is often we need to go back and repeat what we’ve done only faster this time.

Life is full of ups and downs, we think something is a good idea and then we rethink, and we can think ourselves right out of pursuing success. We are never guaranteed success but life is fuller if we have dreams and goals we pursue and see where they go.

If we have zero book sales, and we then publish a book it has potential. If we don’t publish the book it has zero potential even if it is the greatest book ever written. What would a flop look like? Most authors don’t sell more than five hundred copies. Being an author is not about becoming rich and famous, although a few will, and why not us?

Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen. Ralph Waldo Emerson

If we feel we must do something we must do it. If we sing, write, or create anything we need to do it because it feeds our soul. Once we have completed it, why not share it with the world? We may touch someone’s life and as long as we keep our day job what is the downside?

If we never finish our first project we will not move onto the next one. What if it is the tenth project we put out that will touch someone? What if that tenth project is never put out into the world? What if that person is never touched?

We need to utilize our potential. What good is unutilized potential? No matter how good and productive we are we will never use up all of our potential. We don’t know what we are capable of, and we won’t know if we don’t take a chance and do what we know we must do.

There is a still small voice that whispers to us, do we listen? What if no one throughout history listened to that voice and none of the discoveries or inventions were made? We have the lives we have because of the chances people have taken to try new things, make things better, and invent things that didn’t exist before.

In the middle ages, the thinking of the time was that everything that could be known was known. When we look around we may wonder what is there still to discover, invent, and create. We won’t know until someone discovers it, invents it, or creates it, but when they do it will be evident to us that it would be discovered, invented, or created.

The novel I have been working on for years is going to be published on September 5, 2020. It is pre-released on Amazon. I made a decision and I can now move forward.

Is the person we need to take a chance on, us? Do we have something we want to do, but we hesitate, waiting for… what?

Remember, a real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided. Tony Robbins

Again and again, the impossible problem is solved when we see that the problem is only a tough decision waiting to be made. Robert H. Schuller

On the plains of hesitation bleach the bones of countless millions who, at the dawn of decision, sat down to wait, and waiting died. George W. Cecil

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Secrets and Silence: The Truth Will Set You Free by [Belynda Wilson Thomas]

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Make a decision. We can only move in a direction after we make a decision.

We can only move in a direction after we make a decision. Make a decision.

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The power of decision. Once you make the decision to fight fear fades and you are at your most powerful.

We are busily trying to get all the junk out of our house by Monday. Our holiday ends on Monday as we all go back to regular schedules. Popping Ferraro Rocher will no longer be part of my daily routine.

Back to regular bedtimes, regular get-up time, regular gym days and a regular routine. My body works best on a regular routine. Too much food, too many late nights, too much sugar, wine, chocolate, cheese, etc makes us feel not as vital and healthy as we’d like.

Why is it when we have time that is ours to decide what to do, we often do nothing? Why do we get more done when we are busy? When we have to fit our goals and dreams in between our responsibilities we accomplish more than when we have all our time for ourselves?

What if our dream came true and we won the lottery? We already live better than most of those who were the very rich in bygone eras. We have choices but instead of our choices fulfilling us, they seem to make us feel we’ve always made the wrong choice. Why is that? We succumb to greener grass envy. Everyone seems to be having more fun, made better decisions, laughs more, lives better, their children are doing better, they are aging better, their trips are more fun and exciting, their future looks brighter.

Be brave and fearless to know that even if you do make a wrong decision. You’re making it for a good reason. Unknown

My oldest sister says if we all hung our problems on the line, we would take our own problems back, instead of picking someone else’s problems. Even those living the best lives from the outside have things to deal with.

What if one of the big things we have to get comfortable with is asking for what we want? We have to decide what we want, that might be one of our biggest hurdles. When life is a box of chocolates, we may have trouble deciding on the specific chocolate we want. Until we make a decision we don’t have a piece of chocolate, and we may be wondering why everyone has chocolate but us. We’ve made decisions in our life. When we bought a house we had to make a decision, that one, in that neighborhood, with that school district. When we go to paint a room we have to decide on a particular hue.

What if we can have almost anything we want in life, if we make a decision, and work toward it? What if our biggest challenge is making that decision, the one that moves us forward, the ones that clear our clutter, the one that makes us fit and healthy?

We may say we want to travel, but travel where, when, with whom, for how long? What is the reason we hold ourselves back from what we say we want? Is it because we don’t really want it? We want to seem like the kind of people who want that, but if we really wanted it, wouldn’t we have it, or be working toward it?

That might sound harsh, but maybe we need to take a good look at what we want and how we will get there. Are there payoffs to not getting what we want? Do we sabotage ourselves? Are we as honest with ourselves as we need to be? Do we use things as excuses because what we say we want, is what someone else wants for us? Is something holding us back? Do we need to figure out what that is?

What are the decisions we need to make that move us forward in the direction of our dreams, goals, and aspirations?

You have the power to change your future by making an important decision today. Let go of the past! Unknown

One good wish changes nothing. But one good decision changes everything. Your power to choose, to make a good decision, spells the difference between wishing and making real-life changes. Steve Goodier

What is the secret of success? Right decisions. How do you make right decisions? Experience. How do you get experience? Wrong decisions. Unknown

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The Elements of Thinking in Systems: Use Systems Archetypes to Understand, Manage, and Fix Complex Problems and Make Smarter Decisions Paperback – Jan 22 2019

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Decisions, changes, and executions. When is a better time to do the things we want to do? Is it as simple as making a decision, putting it on our calendar, and executing?

When is a better time to do the things we want to do? Is it as simple as making a decision, putting it on our calendar, and executing?

Architect and builder Aaron Thomas and Natalie Scott

Be democratic in decision making and autocratic while being in execution mode. Sreeram Jvc

Christmas is a time of connection. We call people we don’t speak to often; we send cards, we think about people but they will never know unless we connect with them in some way.

I was speaking with my youngest brother and his wife. He said he dropped in on a neighbor back home after being away for years. They were invited in for coffee, given some food, talked and laughed. He later learned the guy had no idea who he was.

There is a nice facebook post circulating where people are saying you can drop into their place for coffee, hot chocolate, wine, something to eat and talk. Growing up we never had a phone. If anyone wanted to see us they had to drop in. Have we gotten too formal to just drop in and have a chat and a laugh?

Our circles get too small if we don’t make an effort to connect. I called an old family friend yesterday. She’s ninety-four in assisted living and we had a lovely chat. She’s still cheerful, optimistic, and grateful for the blessings she has in her life. I’m asking myself now, why haven’t I called her lately?

Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forward. Soren Kierkegaard

Yesterday I read a Facebook post by a twenty-four-year-old woman who posted it the day before she died of cancer. She was telling us to put what is important first. To have as many experiences in life as we can and want. She tells us to give blood because blood donors kept her alive this last year which gave her more time to enjoy her short life.

My new January resolution is to go to the blood clinic and give blood. My hemoglobin isn’t always high enough to donate so I can’t donate as often. I shouldn’t use that as an excuse not to bother.

Any excuse will do if we want an excuse. It doesn’t matter what we are using the excuse to avoid. Avoiding things we should do is not a good way to live. Everything we want to do may not fit into our life. What is important to us is what we do fit in.

This is our life, the only one we have. As this year ends it’s a good time to think about what we want to fit into the next one. Are there people we need to connect with, are there relationships we need to heal, are there decisions we need to make? Have we been putting off bringing projects to completion, is this new year the year to finally publish the book, make a decision to go forward in our lives, start the business, travel, get healthy, or any other decision waiting to be made? When is a better time to do the thing we know we want to do, should do, and is ready to be done?

If we can make one change in the new year what is the change we should make?

No project is completed until its objective has been achieved. Paulo Coelho

Nothing works until you do. Maya Angelou

Those who plan do better than those who do not plan, even though they rarely stick to their plan. Unknown

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We all have insecurities. It isn’t about not having insecurities, it’s about feeling the fear, making a decision, going forward, and living our lives.

It isn't about not having insecurities, it's about feeling the fear, making a decision, going forward, and living our lives. We all have insecurities.

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A man’s spirit is free, but his pride binds him with chains of suffocation in a prison of his own insecurities. Jeremy Aldana

When did you first know you were insecure? I was asked last night. I’m not sure what my first reaction to the question was, but I said a little later, “I think we all have insecurities.”

I remember feeling insecure when I moved from the one-room school to the town school for grade four. It isn’t not having insecurities that’s important, it’s doing what needs to be done regardless of those insecurities.

There is no point in worrying about if we are good enough, attractive enough, tall enough, thin enough, fit enough, graceful enough, witty enough, smart enough, educated enough, put together enough, stylish enough, and yet we do worry about those things.

It isn’t about becoming secure instead of insecure; it is about becoming comfortable with being uncomfortable and being willing to do what needs to be done, putting ourselves out there to build the life we want to build.

We don’t know when we do anything how it will turn out, will it be good, will it be bad? Isn’t insecurity just another word for fear? It takes courage to deal with our insecurities, to face our fears, to take the next step. It takes courage to stand up for what we believe in especially if our beliefs seem old fashioned, quaint, and out of touch with the times.

There are obstacles to dealing with insecurities or maybe the cause of them.

Past criticisms. We need to find a way to deal with past criticisms. We are perfectly imperfect; we can become better, not perfect. People in our lives did the best they knew how to do. They weren’t perfect parents, teachers, friends, and coaches. When we become friends, parents, teachers, coaches, employees, employers, etc we won’t be perfect either. We will offend others, it is better if we become less offendable.

A negative self-image. We aren’t as smart, talented, fit, athletic, attractive, or charming as we’d like to be. What we need to realize is, nor is anyone else. Even those people who we think of as beautiful, fit, smart, are probably insecure as well.  Some of the most blessed are also the most insecure.

Insecure people only eclipse your sun because they’re jealous of your daylight and tired of their dark, starless nights. Shannon L. Alder

Needing approval. We need to get over needing approval and permission to live our lives.

Lack of trust. We need to trust ourselves to deal with whatever situations come up even if there are betrayals, and we need to know we can go on.  We will be okay even if things don’t work out. We will learn the hard lessons and easy lessons. We will live through the good times and the bad. We may prosper, we may not prosper. We need to trust the process of life. We need to be willing to live through the bad to get to the good.

We need to quit comparing the worst of ourselves to the best in other people. We need to accept ourselves warts and all. We are who we are, we can do the best we can and still, we’ll fall short some of the time. We will disappoint ourselves and others. We won’t be where we thought we should be at every point in our life.

If we are lucky we will have moments in our life that seem absolutely perfect. They will catch us off guard with their beauty. We will think of those moments as we go forward in our life. We will think of them as we look back over our lives. They will give us comfort in our old age.

If we don’t learn to deal with our insecurities we won’t take the chances to build the life that has those moments. This is the danger. It isn’t about not having insecurities, it’s about dealing with them. Looking them in the eye, feeling our fear, taking the chance, making a decision, and going forward in our life.

There will never come a time in our life when we can be guaranteed the chance we take will work out. If we need that guarantee we will never take the chance.

I’m listening to people, especially men on the internet advising other men, especially younger men to stay away from women; telling them, “you’ll only get your heart, broken.”  We may get our heart, broken but that is part of life. When we get married we will hurt each other in little and big ways. Our children will cause us pain and heartache, but that is nothing compared to the joy they bring us.

Some people won’t have a pet because it will die. We need to learn to accept death it is part of life. It is hard when a dog dies, a parent dies, or a friend dies. Trying to protect ourselves from living is the worst decision.

Live fully, love truly, make a decision, go for what we want, and if we fail, try again. Failing is not bad, fail bigger, fail better, but live, truly live, don’t die with our song still in us. People may laugh at our song, while they do not sing their own. What others think will impact us, and while we should consider what they think we shouldn’t substitute their judgment for our own. Be better, bolder, stronger, and courageous, take a chance on life, and take a chance on ourselves.

Are our insecurities holding us back? What would we do if we knew we couldn’t fail?

It is when we all play safe that we create a world of utmost insecurity. Dag Hammarskjold

The opposite of security is insecurity, and the only way to overcome insecurity is to take risks. Unknown

He who is humble is confident and wise. He who brags is insecure and lacking. Lis Edmondson

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Gratitude, joy, and happiness. Is it our choice how we look at our life?

Is it our choice how we look at life? Gratitude, joy, and happiness.

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Joy is the simplest form of gratitude. Karl Barth

How shall we maintain so much joy and gratitude in our lives? Brendan Burchard asks in The Motivation Manifesto.

When we look at little children no matter where they are they take their exuberance with them. How did we lose this? Of course, if we acted like little children chasing each other around the coffee shop we might have bigger problems.

We admire the stiff upper lip of some and the exuberance of others. Our emotional state is our choice. We do not find joy, we create joy, we do not have happiness, we create happiness. If we ask ourselves if we are feeling enough, gratitude, joy, and happiness and we aren’t, what can we do to increase our feelings of gratitude, joy, and happiness?

We can start by counting our blessings of which there are many. I have a joy manufacturer living in my house, my dog Lulu. If we have young children they are the same. Yesterday at Tim Horton’s a young boy was exuberantly making noise and the more his mother tried to shush him, the more he looked at her with a mischievous glint in his eye and made more noise. It was fun to watch, and he didn’t carry on long enough to be annoying. He lightened everyone’s mood watching him. We couldn’t help ourselves but smile at him enjoying life in the fullness of the moment.

When we hear laughter our heart gets a little lighter. When we laugh it is good for our soul. After a night of laughing with my book club, I always feel renewed. Now that December is here I love the sound of Christmas Carols in the mall. The Christmas spirit has descended upon us, it is a tangible thing, hard to explain that amid the commercialism of Christmas we have something pure and good that touches our hearts.

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude. Denis Waitley

We feed off each other’s energy, both positive and negative. If we are around people feeling sorry for themselves it is hard to remain upbeat and positive. There are those of us who are putting on a happy face trying to be positive, and then there are the genuine positive people with cheerful faces, ready smiles, and sparkling eyes.

Do we have a natural set point of happiness? A natural level of joy, and exuberance? Is this another area we judge ourselves and feel we aren’t enough?

My daughter and I were talking about self-esteem last night. My sister in law said to me one day that my brother and I always had such confidence. It never seemed that way to me. I always envied those with bravado, cockiness, the life of the party types with big personalities. I envied those talking about what they’d do, but it seems often it’s the quiet types that go and do.

Being okay with who we are, our talents, gifts, personalities, looks, and not envying others theirs is part of growth. If there is something we want to change, do, accomplish, we need to change, do, and accomplish.

There is no substitute for action in our lives. Nothing changes until we change something. While we are working toward goals we need to be grateful for all we have, experience moments of joy and find happiness in the journey.

Are we only a decision away from a totally different life? If life is a garden, and we can plant flowers or we can plant weeds, what are we planting? What if calling a dandelion a flower and enjoying its sunny color brings us more happiness than calling it a weed? Nothing changed, it still sat in the middle of our green lawn but it’s still pretty, and it’s still there, we may as well enjoy it.

Are we enjoying as many things in our life as we can? Is there another way to look at things that will bring us more gratitude, joy, and happiness?

At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us. Albert Schweitzer

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Making decisions, improving our lives. We’ll never know where we can go if we don’t start.

We'll never know where we can go if we don't start. Making decisions, improving our lives.

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Your attitude, not your aptitude will determine your altitude. Zig Ziggler

We can if we think we can. It is so true that what we believe we can do, determines what we will try to do, and what we try to do, determines what we can accomplish. How do we know we can, or can’t do something unless we try?

Why do we let fear rule our lives? What’s the worst that could happen? If it’s death maybe we should pass, but we are all going to die, and is dying doing something we love the worst way to go?

It doesn’t matter what our challenge is, what fear strikes us to our core. After we’ve faced it, even if to no one but ourselves recognizes the accomplishment. We walk a little taller, smile a little broader, and know with one down we can take on the next challenge.

We look at people who accomplish great things and think of that as the challenge. That is not the challenge that is the accumulation of many challenges. Good speakers, writers, artists, dancers, and musicians do not become good artists, speakers, writers, artists, dancers, or musicians because of their talent alone. They practice and take chances, and at some point if anyone is to know they are speakers, writers, artists, dancers, or musicians they must put themselves out there.  It is the same in any endeavor.

One of the speakers at Toastmasters gave an analogy of how too many of us try to improve ourselves. We are like a monkey trying to gather corn. The monkey picks a cob of corn and puts it under his arm. He then picks another cob of corn and puts it under his arm but the first cob of corn falls out. He does this over and over but only has one cob of corn to show for it. The smart monkeys must learn how to add one cob of corn to the other cob of corn to profit from the effort being expended.

We could practice speaking to the mirror every day and it would not profit us much. At some point, we must step into the ring of life. Nothing happens until we make something happen. We need to make a move to get the girl or guy of our dreams. We must take the chance to build the life, buy the house, have the baby, start a business, write a book, or whatever it is we want to do and accomplish in life.

Everything we do has its risks, hard parts, challenges, and only with perseverance do we get the prize. Maybe we will do everything right and not get the prize. Maybe we will get the prize and realize we aren’t happy with the prize, or it isn’t a big enough prize.

Life is about moving forward. Our progress may be so slow we think we are standing still, but if we continue we will see progress. It is progress toward our goals not just achieving our goals that create a rewarding life.

Choose your life’s mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 percent of all your happiness or misery. H. Jackson Brown Jr.

It is in building a family that more joy happens than in any other endeavor. In building a family boy meets a girl, they have a baby, the baby grows into an adult and creates their own family and we feel joy and love at every stage. If we do not create that family ourselves, we can be part of someone else’s family and enjoy the stages as a close friend, aunt, or uncle.

Henry Ford might have said it best, “If you think you can, or you think you can’t, you are right.”

Is there something in our life we are waiting to move forward on? Is it time to take a deep breath, make a decision to go for what we want? Is it time to make a decision that where we are headed is not what we want and we need to reverse, turn around, or chart a new course? Do we need to decide if the next step is one we don’t want to take, or we are scared to take? When we are at the crossroads in life the road we take makes all the difference. We will not know where the road not taken would have led. We need to make peace with only being able to take one of the roads before us.

Is it time to make a decision about where we want our life to go? No matter where we are in our life, there are always decisions to make. What is the decision in our life, that if we make it today, will improve our life?

The hardest decisions in life are not between good and bad or right and wrong, but between two goods or two rights. Joe Andrew

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Making plans and setting goals. This is our life, what do we want to do, achieve, experience?

This is our life, what do we want to do, achieve, experience? Making plans and setting goals.

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It is not enough to be busy. The question is: what are you busy about? Henry David Thoreau

This morning the extra hour made it easier to get up at five o’clock. It is still too dark to go for a walk at six. In my morning reading, Brendon Burchard says in The Motivation Manifesto we should write our goals down in the morning before everyone starts to push and pull us toward their ends.

When we’ve decided what our goals for the day are, we can then work around other people’s demands. There is something about scheduling commitments to our self that is more of a commitment than when it is just in our head.

One of the problems we have in our lives is fitting in the things that need to be done, should be done, or could be done. We need to move some of the could’s and should’s into the schedule. We feel we don’t have enough time to fit everything in, but what if we figured out how to do things in less time.

Last night flicking through the channels my husband came upon a show about what we really have to do to be fitter. The answer is less than we think. Instead of ten thousand steps per day, three ten minute brisk walks are more effective because they raise our heart rate. Twenty seconds of high-intensity activity elevates our heart rate.

Two rounds of one minute of jumping jacks followed by one minute of squats is an effective workout we can do anywhere without gym equipment, or spending any money.

Writing every day doesn’t mean hours of writing, it does mean actually writing something and creating a habit of writing. We can do the same with fitness, some small form of exercise fits into our life, if we do it every day we will develop a fitness habit.

Goals. There’s no telling what you can do when you get inspired by them. There’s no telling what you can do when you believe in them, and there’s no telling what will happen when you act upon them. Jim Rohn

If I take a couple of minutes every morning to schedule my day it will become a habit, and being more organized makes achieving our goals easier. Sometimes if we don’t write down our goals they remain hazy and unformed in our minds. At the beginning of the year, I found some yearly journals and I bought a bunch in various colors. I haven’t used them nearly enough. The one I like the best has the week on one page and a blank page opposite for planning. The mistake I made was thinking I should have journals for different parts of my life instead of one very messy journal with everything in it. My goal until the end of the year is to use one journal to plan my days and weeks.

If we don’t make a plan it can be harder to meet our goals. Carving out a little time for ourselves for exercise, creative pursuits, reading, even important phone calls can seem daunting, but once we’ve written it down we are more likely to get it done.

Instead of starting out January 1st, today is the day to make whatever changes we want to make today, and tomorrow is the day to make whatever changes we want to make tomorrow. No one else will do for us what we need to do for ourselves.

If we write our goals down we have more of a chance of meeting them. They will, of course, need to be revised but at least we’ve set a goal to meet, revise, and maybe even change. Isn’t that better than having no goals and moving aimlessly towards what? Is it time for making plans and setting goals?

You have to set goals that are almost out of reach. If you set a goal that is attainable without much work or thought you are stuck with something below your true talent and potential. Steve Garvey

Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible. Tony Robbins

Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along. Unknown

Thank you for reading this post. I hope you enjoyed it. I hope you will come back and read some more. Have a blessed day filled with gratitude, joy, and love.

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Choices. Beginning is half done. Make a decision.

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It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped. Tony Robbins

Making the decision to go forward is hard. Should we, is it a mistake, will we be happier, will we be successful, will we lose money? Will it just be a waste of time, money etc. We sit with whatever the decision is we have to make, unable to choose.

Sometimes we want to jump into a business, buy a house, start a family. We worry is this the right time? Should we ask the person we love to marry us, ask the person out we like, or ask someone to take a chance on us again?

We worry and think, think and worry, our indecision drives us crazy. Sometimes we stay undecided until the opportunity we were considering is gone. She couldn’t wait. He now has a girlfriend or she now has a boyfriend. The second chance opportunity is gone, everyone is now to bitter to consider it. We are down a road we don’t want to be on because we couldn’t decide to go forward.

It is usually worth going forward. We need to be willing to take the step and know we are strong enough to deal with what lies ahead. We want our life to progress, we don’t want regrets.

What lies ahead is not happily ever after, nor only good stuff regardless of our choice. When we make a choice we can unfreeze our self we can commit to a goal, a path, a life, a partner, a business, a career, a house, a family. Without the commitment we have none of it. We stay in the job we do not like. We stay living alone, we don’t build the family, business, life, we don’t start the painting, novel, song, exercise program, or join the group.

We have a decision to make because something needs to change. We are stuck, our life calls out for action. That action can’t happen until a decision is made. We know what we want, but we are afraid. If we listen to the fear we get what we have or sometimes we lose what we have. Life can’t stand still, we need to move forward.

Some of our important choices have a time line. If we delay a decision, the opportunity is gone forever. Sometimes our doubts keep us from making a choice that involves change. Thus an opportunity may be missed. James E. Faust

We all have decisions to make every day. What to eat, what to wear, who to spend time with, how to earn our daily bread. Most of these decisions we make almost automatically. We have hamburger in the fridge so that’s dinner. When there’s nothing in the fridge we might pop out for a hamburger or order in. Most of us have figured it out by nine o’clock.

How do we know what the right decision is? What if there isn’t a right decision? When my husband wanted to start his own business. He was offered a good job with the City. He went with the business. There are perks to having your own business there are perks to working where you have a pension and peers. What wasn’t okay was if he’d stayed where he was. Had he been unable to make a decision that would be the outcome.

Some of us have been stuck for years. Things we want to do are still waiting. Talents are unused, friends are unmet, families are not created, and businesses are not started. How many of us have seen something come to life, fruition, reality that we thought of? We didn’t do anything with it, someone else did and they reap the reward.

We can’t do something with everything that crosses our mind. We need to do something with enough of the opportunities that present themselves to build a good life. Life is one decision after another. When we can’t make a decision, we’ve still made a decision. If it isn’t yes, it’s no, there is no maybe in life.

There are no guarantees. We live it one step at a time. We don’t know going forward that this decision will never be regretted. We do know we regret more of what we don’t do than what we do.

It takes courage to give someone another chance you feel has hurt you in a way you never expected, and it hurts more than you can comprehend. It takes courage to buy a house and put every cent you have and will have for the foreseeable future into it and put down roots. It takes courage to say this is the man or woman for me. It takes courage to say goodbye to a secure pay cheque and go it on your own. It takes courage to start a family.

One decision starts us down a path, gets us off a path, detours from a path, creates a new path, or continues on a path. That decision determines our life going forward. We need to make the decision that gives us the best chance of living our best life. If we take the chance we will likely look back at this cross roads with a thankful heart, a fuller life, a grateful spirit.

We need to feel the fear, look at the consequences and be willing to face whatever must be faced to build the life we want. If we want a happy, fulfilling life we’ll have to take a few chances along the way. We need to trust it will be worth it in the end.

Take a chance on life. Make a decision. Go forward in hope and promise, trust we can deal with whatever is out there. Choose!

In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right things, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst you can do is nothing. Theodore Roosevelt

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