Painting by Belynda Wilson Thomas

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. Lewis B. Smedes

Flexibility is all around us in the newness of spring. Green shoots are growing and pulsing with life.

Last night I finished the book Metamorphosis by Isabella Macleod. It was my book club pick, she has piqued my interest and I may have to get the sequel. Miranda the main character is dealing with Morgellons disease, a disease some believe is caused by Lymes disease, and some doctors believe is a psychiatric illness. How awful to have a debilitating illness and doctors and people around you think it is all in your head. Her already failing marriage erodes and she is picking up the pieces of her life and dealing with this strange illness when this book, ends.

On my walk last night I was listening to Atomic Habits by James Clear. He gave an analogy of what happens to us in life. He said boiling water softens a potato and hardens an egg. We don’t know how the things life throws at us will affect us. Will we be the potato or the egg? Can we choose to make choices in our lives where our particular characteristics, talents, interests, and strengths are in line with what we can be best at?

We can make small changes to our habits to improve our lives. But, if we are trying to excel in an area we are not cut out for no amount of improvement may get us to where the people who have natural attributes get. We self-select out of sports that don’t fit our physical body type – even the short basketball players are tall.

We might not like the challenges that lie before us; we may think they are not fair. Life in many ways is what we make it with creativity, tenacity, courage, and luck. Why should we have to go through this, whatever this is? It is ours and often we cannot skirt what is ours to plow through. Dealing with life and finding the silver lining makes some people become heroes they could never have become without that adversity. I think of Terry Fox, Helen Keller, and Anne Frank. There are many, many more people who rose above adversity, and who rise above it every day.

You’ll never know how strong your heart is until you learn to forgive who broke it. Anonymous

My sister says if we all hung our problems on the line, after surveying everyone else’s problems we’d take our own problems back home. It is a good way to look at things as they are ours, how we deal with them may make or break our life. I look at people in some circumstances and I think surely they could be doing better. I of course don’t know what brought them to where they are. What lessons they have to learn and how far they have already come. Judge not lest yee be judged. It is hard not to judge, even if we feel hurt at the judgments leveled at us.

The supple green shoots bend in the wind; the old hardwood will crack and break. We need to remain flexible. I say this as I know many who know me would say I am not flexible. Does being flexible mean we have no principles to stand on? Does it mean we don’t think some ideas, practices, and traditions are better than others?

I have always liked the expression “Love the sinner but hate the sin,” as a way of dealing with ourselves and others who miss the mark. We may have differences in opinion of where “The mark is,” but in general we can see there are more positive ways to live lives and more negative ones. We need to forgive ourselves and others as we build our lives, our country, and our world.

Do we focus on what we can do in our lives and let others focus on what they can do in theirs? Can we offer a hand up when we can, and let ourselves and others put the mistakes of the past behind us as we go forward? Perfection is the enemy of the good. No one is perfect but as long as life pulses in us can we be growing, forgiving, learning, and loving?

If you are truly flexible and go until… there is really very little you can’t accomplish in your lifetime. Anthony Robbins

You have to have the capacity and the ability to take what people did, and how they did it, and forgive them and move on. John Lewis

Although no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. Carl Bard

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