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Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly. Robert F. Kennedy

We want to do something but we tell ourselves it will be too hard, it won’t work, or what if we fail. Often if we will take that step to make a change in our life the bridge will be there and by crossing that bridge we may find it easier to make decisions and trust things will work out in the future.

Does it also work the other way? The more things we don’t do, tell ourselves can’t work and didn’t push forward on the less we feel prepared to take the step ahead of us?

What if there aren’t really many things in life that are good or bad, but our thinking makes it so? We can bemoan the opportunities that eluded us or we can grab hold of what is in front of us. Not everyone we meet sees greatness, encourages us, helps us, or even likes us. How much growth in our life would we have if it was so easy we had no challenges to overcome, no growth, and no perseverance. We would also not have achievement. If we need to struggle to grow then we should be happy when things don’t work out as planned. I know, this is a stretch.

In Grace Cirocco’s book “Take the Step the Bridge Will Be There” she gives us the “The Self-Defeating Cycle.”

Fear becomes a lack of self-love which becomes a lack of courage, turning into a lack of faith, resulting in no action, turns into depression, which becomes regret, ending in sadness. We had a choice we didn’t take and we end up sad with less self-confidence.

She also gives us the “Braveheart Cycle.”

We face fear and feel uncomfortable feelings, we take action facing risk, we grow and develop self-confidence, and we end up feeling courageous.

We may think these cycles are only relevant in the big areas of our lives. Don’t they happen all the time? We wish we said something and because we didn’t we live with regret. We wish we’d changed something years ago, but we hesitate to do it now because it’s been so long, and we continue to live with regret.

We are always here in this moment and it is in this moment we have the power to decide to do something, feel courageous, or not do something and live with sadness and regret.

You can have anything you want if you want it passionately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world. Sheila Graham

Sometimes we regret in the short term and are happy in the long term we didn’t make that decision and take that action. It isn’t always wrong to hold back, and it isn’t always right to forge ahead. When we make the right decision we call it good judgment. We teach our children to have good judgment and not to follow the crowd. Somewhere we need to find a balance between being a risk-taker and being careful about the risks we take. Putting the mortgage money on red is brave, stupid, foolhardy, and not likely to end up well.

Have you seen the movie “Yes Man” starring Jim Carey, he takes few chances and lives a lonely unsatisfied life? He is pushed into joining a movement where the only answer is “Yes” to whatever is asked. He starts saying “Yes” to everything and his life changes in a big way.

Sometimes we have to jump in, sometimes we have to wade in slowly, and sometimes we need a push to get going. It isn’t important how we do it, it’s important that we do it. How do birds know they can fly? Is there a step you want to take, a change you want to make, something new you want to bring into your life? Take the step, the bridge will be there.

“Come to the edge,” he said. They said, “We are afraid.” “Come to the edge,” he said. They came. He pushed them… and they flew. Guillauwe Apollinaires

You know that if you get in the water and have nothing to hold on to, but try to behave as you would on dry land, you will drown. But if, on the other hand, you trust yourself to the water and let go, you will float. And that is exactly the situation with faith. Alan Watts

Passion lops off the length of weariness. Passion is the elixir that renews… Oh, don’t sigh heavily from fatigue: seek passion, seek passion, seek passion. Rumi

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