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One of the happiest moments in life is when you find the courage to let go of what you cannot change. Unknown

Waiting for change can be painful an advertisement says, as a violin is played very badly. The change can be music to your ears it says, as a beautiful violin piece is then played.

Many times in our lives we are waiting for better and we don’t know how we will handle getting from here to there. How many of us had awful nausea in pregnancy – that got better and produced our children which will produce our grandchildren.

How many awful jobs got better or were replaced and a better life was built, sometimes because we said we are never doing that again. We will not live like that. A horrible early life is jet-fuel for some people as they make sure they aren’t living the life they grew up in and nor will their children.

Sometimes we are going through tough parts of our life that we need to get through and we don’t know how things will look on the other side. We might not even know if there is another side, or if our life will have to be completely transformed. My mother always tells me, “There’s no use worrying about it.” She’s right, what does worrying today about what we’ll have to face tomorrow do except ruin today. Tomorrow, whatever it is will be there tomorrow and we will have to face it.

Today is all we have and if today is good we should enjoy it. Today is the day we can laugh with our children, if they are young we can read them a story or sing them a song, take them to a park, roll in the leaves, laugh and be joyful. If they aren’t young we can sit around a table and eat dinner and talk, go for a walk and talk, or call them on the phone and talk. Talking is a big part of connecting with people but not all people are talkers. Some people connect with the shoulder to shoulder connection of doing something together.

All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on. Henry Ellis

Building loving families is one of the things we can do regardless of what is going on in the wider world. We don’t need good circumstances to build loving families and good communities.  We don’t need to live through easy times. When we go through the tough times in life we may pull together more and make more of an effort to make sure there is something for everyone, and that everyone is included.

Robert Schuller always said, “Tough times don’t last, but tough people do.” We need to be tough people and we need to let other people be tough people. They need to make their own decisions and carve their own path. It is not wrong for people to look after their own interests, in fact, it is required and if we don’t look after our own interests we can’t have a good life. It is not right to think anyone else will or should put our interests first.

When we have a family and we think of the family first it is usually good for everyone in the family. We can’t control our families we need to let them grow and develop and take their place in the world. We need to grow and develop so we are not left empty when they are ready to go out into the world.

Do we know when to hold on and when to let go?

Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t. Steve Maraboli

Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it. Alyson Noel

The greatest gifts you can give your children are the roots of responsibility and the wings of independence. Denis Waitley

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