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“To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow–this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.”
– Elizabeth Gilbert, Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage

I am reading women with higher education are choosing marriage more than women without higher education. I believe this is a surprise to some. Why would this be a surprise? Marriage provides the best chance for a relationship focused on personal growth.

Raising a family is not for the faint of heart. It takes everything we have to be good parents and raise healthy, happy, responsible children. We are not the same people at the end of the journey as we were at the start. I think most of us feel an innate need to have a child.

Education gives us choice, finding a partner is a drive most of us have. Choosing a good mate is the biggest choice of our life. That educated women are making this choice is not a surprise to me. They can afford to live on their own but they don’t want to. Why would anyone want to live alone? Men didn’t want to live alone when they had the means.

It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune,must be in want of a wife. Jane Austen

The more things change, the more they stay the same. Marriage creates a bond we are seeking, a fulfillment we are longing. Finding a mate we can go through life with is one of the keys to happiness. Many will agree with me and many will not. I feel people who have found a suitable partner and weathered the journey together are among the happiest people on earth.

If it is correct there is a happiness curve, we are happier after fifty and before thirty five. We are idealists in our youth, realists in our older years, and unhappy with our lot in the middle. This may be why if we get through the tough slogging of thirty five to fifty with an intact marriage we feel pretty good. Those are also the year’s most of us are busy with kids and work with little time for ourselves.

Being married and having children has brought most of the joy I have in my life. I can’t imagine life without the closeness of family. I think whatever choices and sacrifices have been made for family are worth it. Because I think this, doesn’t make it true for everyone.

“Where there is love there is life.”
– Mahatma Gandhi

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