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Pride that dines on vanity, sups on contempt. Benjamin Franklin

I’ve been saying in my hubris that the reason I haven’t caught what everyone else in the house caught is I’m drinking kombucha. Today my throat is raspy. I felt it coming on after my husband and I got in from having tea and coffee at a coffee shop.

Before bed I took oil of oregano and stayed in bed longer hoping to nip it in the bud. I have an important date. I’m being taken out to celebrate my 500th blog post. I don’t want to miss it.

Does hubris get all or most of us sometimes? We think we are smarter, healthier, or luckier. What mows everyone else down will not touch us. Hubris is extreme pride and arrogance which ultimately brings down one’s downfall.

What is the difference between authentic pride and hubris? Is it just who is looking and judging? Is authentic pride based on a realistic appraisal of one’s competencies, abilities, and achievements? Is hubristic pride related to measures of impulsivity and aggression?

If we never fall or fail will it be authentic pride, if we fail or fall will it be hubris? Extreme self-regard doesn’t seem like a recipe for great relationships, nor does extreme self-loathing. Is finding the right balance hard?

Swallow your pride occasionally, it’s not fattening. Frank Tyger

What is the difference between arrogance and self-esteem? Psychologists distinguish between two kinds of pride, authentic pride and hubristic pride. Authentic pride arises when we feel good about ourselves, confident, self-worthy, achieving, productive, and is related to desirable personality traits like agreeable, conscientious, and emotionally stable. Hubristic pride tends to involve egotism arrogance, conceit and is related to socially undesirable traits like being disagreeable, aggressive, having low or brittle self-esteem, and prone to shame.

When most of us want to improve our self-esteem we want to generate authentic pride, not hubristic pride. In one study hubristic pride was thought to be a shortcut used by people instead of doing the hard work of becoming competent, productive, and achieving goals. Yet, aren’t we being told to fake it until we make it?

One of the traits that Jordan Peterson author of 12 Rules for Life tells us is innate is agreeableness and disagreeableness and women tend to be more agreeable than men. He believes being disagreeable is a trait that helps many people get ahead in the world.

What if there is a place for authentic pride and hubris that has helped us make it to where we are?

Show class, have pride and display character. If you do, winning takes care of itself. Paul Bryant

Pride is an important quality to cultivate. If pride comes from a balanced view that can also respect the best in others, it stokes the inner fires that fuel us to great accomplishments. Unknown

Pride is the oldest and most common of sins. Humility is the rarest and most beautiful of graces. J.C. Ryle

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