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If you don’t like something change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Maya Angelou

Yesterday I called Mom to wish her a happy 95th birthday. She went for her walk by herself and felt happy and joyful being able to do so.

Mom was happy to be able to go for a walk and enjoy the scenery, fresh air, and the fact that at ninety-five everything still works. She lives beside a nursing home and is reminded every day how lucky she is to have good health.

What makes happy people happy? Is it a decision some people make and others do not? Have happy people won the happiness lottery? Could we spend half of our life unhappy and decide to change and become a happy person? How much control do we have over our attitudes?

Last night my daughter, husband and I sat talking. We were talking about attitudes and how our attitude is the most important thing in our life. What we will do, how we will treat people and ourselves will be because of our attitude. How we see life, what we will strive for, the habits we develop, the choices we make will depend on our attitude. Attitude is what helps us deal with problems without losing our sense of balance, and allows us to face difficulties without losing hope.

Where did we get our attitudes from? Some attitudes are determined by circumstances we’ve experienced, behavior, cognition, feelings, beliefs, and social norms. Our attitudes are judgments we use.

Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference. Winston Churchill

Some of our attitudes are strong attitudes, in the sense, we find them important, hold them with confidence, do not change them very much, and use them frequently to guide our actions.

After people think about their attitudes, talk about them, or just say them out loud, the attitudes they expressed become stronger. This may be why we are told to be careful of the company we keep because we will develop the same attitudes. If we believe we can, or we believe we can’t, we are right. If we believe something is positive or negative is it our attitudes that make us look at the positive or negative attributes?

Is anything in life positive or negative or do we look at the side of it that fits with our world view? Does this happen in our families, dreams, goals, choices, habits, political views, social views, religious, and spiritual views?

Do we have attitudes we express around some people and repress around others? For instance, our parents may see us as dutiful, morally conscious, and our friends may see us as impulsive and susceptible to peer pressure. Our attitudes may look like whatever group we are trying to fit in with. We may think we are above peer pressure and social pressure but we probably are not.

Are our attitudes, values, character, and ultimately our actions determined by the circumstances we are in? If we change our circumstances, the people we surround ourselves with, the books we read, the shows we watch,  the ideas we listen to, and the thoughts we think, can we create a better attitude towards our self, others, and life?

Is our attitude a choice?

A great attitude to have in life is to learn how to be prepared for the worst, but also know how to expect the best in life. Dylan J. Cameron

It is very important to generate a good attitude, a good heart, as much as possible. From this happiness in both the short term and the long term for both, yourself and others will come. Dalai Lama

Negativity is a very nasty and contagious disease. Remove yourself from all negative people, situations, and things. Choosing to be positive will help you maintain a better attitude, better health, and mindset. Jefroy Hanson

Thank you for reading this post. I hope you enjoyed it. I hope you will come back and read some more. Have a blessed day filled with gratitude, joy, and love.

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