Acceptance is one important manifestation of love. Unknown

I’m trying too hard to come up with a good speech. I wrote one quickly but I don’t know if I like it. It’s a five to seven-minute speech; it’s supposed to be funny. There is so much in life that is funny, so why when I am deliberately trying to come up with funny, does nothing seem funny?

Should I talk about men and women being different but equal? According to Susan Jeffers in Opening Our Hearts to Men, she says as women enter the workforce they are realizing they can manage without men, and men are realizing they do worse without women.

What are we to do when psychologically married men and single women fare better? What is it about marriage that works for men, and doesn’t work for women? Is this true, or is this like saying that unmarried women without children are the happiest people?

It was a carefree and fun time to be single without children. I enjoyed it immensely, but the meaning and joy brought into my life by children, and also the work, hard slogging and making ends meet of both time and resources has made me a better person.

Men used to provide the resources that let us raise our children. Now we women can provide our own resources and sometimes quite handsomely. Some men are left wondering what their role is.

My husband and I have worked together for years, we are interdependent. When there are two jobs it probably makes splitting up easier. If both can afford their own place it might not take much to be up and out, and not look back. When money is tight, many couples may stay together when if they were more affluent they would not.

Most people need love and acceptance a lot more than they need advice. Unknown

They tell us it is the rich who are getting married and staying together because they understand the cost of divorce, and the poor don’t seem to. What if we are still better together than we are apart, most of the time? Does it matter who brings in the bacon, or who cooks it, as long as there is cooked bacon? What if he brings home the bread, and she brings home the bacon and they can have a bacon sandwich. This, of course, is part of the growing divide between rich and poor. As some families have bread and bacon, some have only bread, some have only bacon, and some hardly get any bread or bacon on a consistent basis.

It seems there is a men’s revolution going on now as men try and figure out where they fit. Some men have given up on even attempting having a life with a woman in it. Some women have given up attempting to have a life with a man in it. Most men and women still feel a pull toward the opposite sex and want a life of love and family.

We’ve been told we can have it all. We may even understand that doesn’t mean we get it all at one time. As I watch my children take their place in the world I see especially my son figuring out how to go after what he wants, and how to make sure he wants what he goes after.

Some of us have worked very hard to climb a mountain and found at some point in our life it was the wrong mountain. Now that men and women both work it makes it easier to move to a different mountain. If we do it right having two incomes or at least two potential incomes may give us choices we wouldn’t have with strict gender roles.

We are told choice doesn’t necessarily make us happier. When we can go back and choose another option we are less satisfied with the option we have. This may be true, but I for one like options.

Serial marriages may not be the path to happiness, but what if the third marriage is the one that finally brings out the best in both partners? What if some of us are slow learners or poor pickers?

What if we live our lives, we make mistakes and we just have to accept the hand that is dealt and the choices we made along the way. Hopefully, at some point looking back, it all makes sense.

Is it possible to give anyone the gift of unconditional love and acceptance?

Loving and being loved unconditionally means taking a leap of faith. It means feeling safe in your relationship and making room for vulnerability so that you can both be truly seen for who you are. Andrea Miller

Acceptance. It is the true thing, everyone, longs for. The one thing everyone craves. To walk in a room and to be greeted by everyone with hugs and smiles. And in that small passing moment, you truly know you’re loved, needed, and accepted. Rena Harmon

It’s more than just the days, holding hands and kissing. It’s about accepting each other’s weirdness and flaws. It’s about being yourself and finding happiness together. It’s about seeing an imperfect person perfectly. Unknown

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