Painting by Belynda Wilson Thomas
The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works, is the family. Lee Iacocca
As I walked with my dog this morning I contemplated what to write about. The importance of family popped into my mind. We were having a conversation about family and the importance of it, and how a people who can be manipulated by the Government need weak family units. How a fundamental principle of communism is the abolition of the family unit. This would leave the state in charge of the children. Children brought up by “the system” leads to such good outcomes surely we should embrace it.
My son mentioned how the term toxic masculinity is being thrown around, but that “toxic masculinity” has created a society where women are very free to conduct our affairs in safety. We don’t live in a society where we can’t be out in the evening. I cringe at the term toxic masculinity.
I don’t believe pitting women against men is helpful; it gives power to groups that want to destroy the cohesiveness we have through the family. By expecting families to always be perfect, are our expectations destroying families that may be struggling? Isn’t a struggling family better for most children than no family?
By creating a society where only perfection is okay, we will create chaos. No one is perfect all the time, says the right things, acts the right way or is always in 100% control of their thoughts and feelings. Expecting mothers and fathers to never get flustered or at their wit’s end when they are dealing with children is not reasonable.
Over vigilance is not better than under vigilance. Making people living good lives, if not perfect ones, feel persecuted does not do anything for our society. Calling reasonable men who only want to create a family and raise their children toxic masculine men is not helpful. Making it seem that throughout history the average man was the rich and powerful man is not correct.
We have always had a few powerful men who were tyrants but their tyranny was visited on both the men and women in their control. We have had women who wielded that power as well. Men and women need to build a society. We don’t have good strong families when only one parent is present. That does not mean single parents don’t do a good job of raising their children. It is not considered optimum, and it is not what most people dream of, and hope for.
Family gives you the roots to stand tall and strong. Unknown
The family is the first essential cell of human society. Pope John XXIII
We have a lot of people fighting in the margins for beliefs that don’t line up with history. Militant feminism is in this camp I believe. We want to feel we have had it bad, and we have, but a lot of it was not because we were treated so badly in our families. Our families were trying to protect us and create the best possible future for us, and make sure we didn’t ruin our lives by poor choices. They were not trying to keep us down. Even if they were misguided they did it out of love, concern, and because of societal norms.
Biology has not been women’s friend. Our monthly cycles, needing protection during pregnancy, rape used as a tactic of war, all of this contributed to how our society was created to protect us. Being protected does not allow the freedom that the protectors enjoy. We were not expected to fight and die for our country. Men fought for the freedom and safety of women and children and still do to this day. Some women throughout history have also fought, but it was not their duty, it was their choice.
It is with gratitude I think of the strong men in my life, my father, husband, son and all the other men that make this a good society. If we really lived in a toxic masculine world, women would be prey all the time. We would have a cat and mouse society not the equal, egalitarian, and working together society we have created.
It is a very good time to be a woman. We probably have as much freedom as we’ve ever had. We need to not just enjoy the freedoms; we also have to take on the responsibilities to build a good society.
The breakdown of the family puts many children in precarious situations and makes them vulnerable to being targeted by nefarious groups and individuals who want to use them, manipulate, and exploit them.
The family is the test of freedom; because the family is the only thing that the free man makes for himself and by himself. Gilbert K. Chesterton
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