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We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is not an act, but a habit. Aristotle
Today I celebrate one year of blogging. What has it meant? What have I learned? One of the things I’ve learned is there is so much to learn. There is so much to think about, ponder, read about, write about, explore, discover. I thought I would run out of topics. I thought I would be saying what will I write about? The more I write the more I seem to have to discover, and the more I discover the more I have to write about.
I was talking to my son and said to him, “I wonder if I should scale back my posts, I’ve got quite a few and maybe people feel overwhelmed.”
He said. “if people like what you create, you can’t create too much. You don’t know where this will take you, but if you like doing it, continue to do it.”
I do love doing it. A habit or routine has developed around it. It starts my day off right. Like making my bed, at least at the end of the day I can say, I put my post out. I wrote today.
Hopefully, along the way, someone reads something and gets an “I’ve thought that too” moment. I’ve stepped out of my comfort zone. I am getting comfortable; it will be time to step out again. Small steps, consistently taken, lead somewhere.
All of you who have come on this journey with me, Thank you. Anyone who has read any of my posts, Thank you. The comments I’ve received I’m grateful for. The bots have taken over my comment section. I’m contemplating eliminating the comment section because most of my comments come by way of Facebook, or email. There is no shortcut to success; Bloggers want to fool people by using bots to manufacture an audience they do not have.
More bots have come to my blog via the comment section than real people reading my posts. Word Press keeps track of traffic and the bots don’t count as posts read, fortunately. Word Press analytics are pretty impressive. What country visitors come from, and how many posts each visitor reads are calculated. Which posts receive the most traffic and where referrals come from like Facebook, Google, Pinterest, etc.
Over time we will develop an audience or we will not. We can only put our art, writing, music, etc. out into the world, where it goes from there is not in our control. If we get enjoyment from creating it, and some people get enjoyment from reading, listening, seeing then we’ve done our part. If our only measurement is in how much money we make it will be a hollow victory, even if we get rich doing it. At least that is what the gurus tell us. I will admit to being open to riches. I’m not one of the people who decry commercial success.
Each choice starts a behavior that over time becomes a habit. Darren Hardy
Tony Robbins tells us it is not what we actually accomplish but continued progress that is important. He tells us it is the rituals we create that develop our life. Over and over we do things, and these things build our lives positively or negatively. We don’t have enough will power to will ourselves to change. We need to do it through rituals, and daily habits.
He tells us if we want to improve our lives in any area to write down how it really is. Ask ourselves what are the rituals that got us to where we are? Write down what we want to change, what we want to happen, and what we want to improve. Then we are to write down the rituals we can implement daily that will get us there.
When we look at our rituals, they either serve us or don’t serve us. We can choose to change them or not. We can ask ourselves, what is one thing we could add or get rid of that would make the biggest difference in our relationship, family life, health, fitness, finances, work, etc. How can we turn that into a ritual or habit?
Recently I turned walking my dog in the morning into a ritual. By changing my morning routine, walking my dog fits in just before I sit down to coffee and writing my blog. Before I changed my morning routine I was sure there was no way to fit dog walking in. I didn’t change my morning routine for dog walking that is a side benefit.
Before I started writing there was no way to fit writing in until I sat down after I put the kids to bed and wrote. I noted the time I started and the time I finished. The output was not important, the practice was. My husband had brought home an old laptop that when I first saw it, I thought, why did he buy that? That old laptop with floppy discs changed me into a writer. I could sit down at the kitchen table; I didn’t need to have a separate space. I couldn’t change my head space from work mode to writer mode if I tried to write in the office. This is one of the things with rituals and habits, our mind works for us in many ways but can also work against us. In the office, I am in work mode. In the den I use for writing I am in writer mode. In my art studio, I am in artist mode. At the gym, I am in workout mode.
Just like we wear the right shoes for what we want to do, we need the right head space for the activity we are going to do. We don’t wear high heels for jogging, we don’t go dancing in rain boots, and we don’t wear our sandals in the snow. Creating rituals around what we want to accomplish puts us in the right head space, and gives us time to accomplish things. We don’t have to prepare ourselves for working out if we change into work out gear. We are ready by the time we tie our shoes.
Are our habits and rituals working for us? Is there a new habit or ritual we could create that would make our relationship with our self or someone else better?
There is nothing more dreadful than the habit of doubt. Doubt separates people. It is a poison that disintegrates friendships and breaks up pleasant relations. It is a thorn that irritates and hurts; it is a sword that kills. The Buddha
If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten. Tony Robbins
Thank you for reading this post. I hope you enjoyed it. I hope you will come back and read some more. Have a blessed day filled with gratitude, joy, and love.
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