You will never feel truly satisfied by work until you are satisfied by life. Heather Schuck
International Women Day is here. We celebrate but do we know why we celebrate it on March 8th? Women gained suffrage in Russia in 1917; March 8th became a national holiday in Russia. The day was predominantly celebrated by the socialist movement and communist countries until it was adopted by the United Nations in 1975.
The theme this year is Balance for Better. This is a great theme; many people feel we are out of balance. More young women than young men are getting college and university degrees. Listening to the young men and women in my home, it may be the men got disillusioned faster with the push for higher education. They realized all they got in some cases was debt. Women got their MRS degree which is still one of the best life choices if we choose the right man.
It seems to me young men are disillusioned with what they’ve been told. They are realizing “If it is to be, it’s up to me.” They are creating their own businesses, getting in on the “gig” economy.
What I see with the young people that cross my path is ambition, equality, a degree of willingness to forge their own path. The young men aren’t in the drawing room talking business and the young women in the kitchen baking cookies. They are all at a round table discussing what to do next.
Questions are being asked, hard questions about equality. They may not have the answers but we can start by asking questions. What is real equality? Is it equality of outcome, or equality of opportunity? Is it the group that must have equality or the individual?
Failure of your company is not failure in life. Failure in your relationships is. Ev Williams, co-founder of Medium and Twitter
Jordan Peterson author of 12 Rules for Life tells us that the more equal society gets, the more diverse the outcomes become. When people have a real choice they choose what makes them happy. This is why many young women opt out of the workforce to enjoy their babies. They have the choice, they can afford it.
Once families or individuals make the amount of money above which life doesn’t get better, is where real choice starts. They say that number is about $75,000.00 per year.
I was listening to Gary Vaynerchuck author of Crushing It. He talks about creating content for the internet as a viable way to make a living, and impact society. He says if you have a job you hate making 80,000.00 but you could have a job you love creating content for the internet and make half or three-quarters of that but be happy, why wouldn’t you choose to be happy?
What women always wanted and still want is choice. The fact that choice doesn’t look like what we thought it would, doesn’t mean women don’t have and don’t love their choices. A lot of women when they have the choice choose to live a life not that different from their grandmothers, looking after home and family.
The more things change, the more they stay the same. We can’t do it all, we can juggle a few balls, marriage and motherhood is still where most of the joy in life lies for women. Marriage and fatherhood are where it lies for most men. This is good news.
Finding out that climbing the corporate ladder is not where fulfillment lies is not a bad thing. Corporate success isn’t what fulfills either the men or the women. It is a means to an end; it is what allows the family to flourish.
Men and women are partners in life. We are not antagonistic entities jostling for position when one wins the other loses. We are partners building lives when one wins, we both win, the family wins, and our children win.
The more balance we have in our lives, the more happiness we can achieve. The more balance we have in our society, the better it will be for everyone. Choice won’t mean an equal outcome for everyone. Those who are willing to work harder, have natural gifts, luck, discipline, foresight, and take more risks will rise to the top. That is how it should be, how it has to be.
As individuals, we build our lives, the choices we make shape us each step of the way. That we have a choice is what women have always wanted. Seeing young men and women building their lives, looking for opportunity and balance makes me realize, we made it.
It is not a failure that the happiest women in the world are rocking their baby with an adoring father at their side. It might not look different, but what makes it different was the choice.
You can’t have everything you want, but you can have the things that really matter to you. Marissa Mayer, president and CEO of Yahoo
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