If life were predictable it would cease to be life, and be without flavor. Eleanor Roosevelt
The happiness of pursuit not the pursuit of happiness gives us a better chance of being happy. Don’t we find happiness in small moments when we are busy doing something else, especially when we are doing something for others? The more focused our lives are on us and only us the less happiness we are likely to experience.
Of course, I could be completely wrong on this. I look at new mothers who have never had their lives be less about themselves, but they look full of joy. I may be romanticizing motherhood like it needs more romanticizing, but it is what I see now as a grandma, and what I saw when my friends, sisters, and I were in the throes of motherhood.
You don’t become happy by pursuing happiness. You become happy by living a life that means something. Harold S. Kushner
There is no purpose in life like that of motherhood and fatherhood. Raising the next generation is no small thing. This does not mean I think every unhappy young couple should have a baby like that will bring them closer and heal their hurts. It does however bring a new dimension to your life you get no other way.
I listened to Matthew McConaughey talking about how men are never as masculine as when they just become a father. This is when they will get some of their best inspiration about what to do to build a better life for their family.
It is a shame to see young families that can’t get through the struggle and stay together. Once your family fractures you never get to put all the pieces back together again. Yesterday, we went for a lovely walk with our daughter and her four-month-old son, our son and his wife, and my husband and me. On the walk, my husband’s sister called, she was dropping by with her granddaughter that turns nine today. I had pasta sauce in the freezer and invited everyone for an impromptu dinner, which turned out lovely.
I picked up a book and cupcakes for the birthday girl, her grandma is taking her to Wonderland today and she’s excited about that. My grandson’s great grandma came; we had a lovely evening filled with laughter and the warm glow of being together as a family.
Life is about moments and some of the impromptu ones turn out to be the best. I went to bed filled with joy, gratitude, and happiness. Our grandson has brought joy into our lives we didn’t know was missing. On Saturday my husband and I watched him while our daughter and son-in-law went out to dinner for their fourth anniversary. Where has the time gone? I was proud of us that the house was quiet when they got home, their son asleep in his crib.
My daughter feels bad if she comes home from the gym and he’s crying. Tears are part of motherhood, but they dry up quickly when he is back in her arms. We build our lives with the decisions we make, with the actions we take, and we deal with life as it unfolds. We don’t know how life will unfold for any of us. We have to be willing to make the best of the situations we find ourselves in; we will have to revise our plans and goals.
The happiness of pursuit is a quest to fill our lives with a sense of purpose. Is there any pursuit more worthy of pursuit than a happy family? Is there anything that will bring us more joy, especially in our later years when we look back over our lives and think about what we could have done differently? If we have a legacy of happy children and grandchildren building their lives, does it get better than that?
The happiest people do not necessarily have the best things. They simply appreciate the things they have. Warren Buffett
Happiness is not a reward – it is a consequence. Suffering is not a punishment – it is a result. Robert Green Ingersoll
People with many interests live, not only the longest, but the happiest. George Matthew Allen
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