The compound effect is working in your life. Is it working for you or against you?

The compound effect is working in our life. Is it working against us or for us?

Small, smart choices + consistency + time = radical difference. Darren Hardy

Tonight our Toastmasters Theme is “Looking Forward” where do we see ourselves in five years. It’s a good question and as I am the one introducing the speakers I had to give an answer to be used in my introduction.

In five years I would like to be a Grandma, have more novels published, and have a line of children’s books written, illustrated, and published. I’m beginning to make audacious goals, for too many years I wasn’t willing to commit to any goals at all. What I’ve finally started doing is tracking my progress. In “The Compound Effect” by Darren Hardy, he says decisions shape our destiny and the effects of our decisions compound.

We’ve all heard if we set aside a little money in our youth and watch it grow through compound interest it will outgrow larger savings at an older age. Our habits compound, if we eat 100 calories more than we burn off every day of our life it will compound into something we aren’t likely to be happy with. If we instead do a little exercise every day of our life that will compound to something we will be happy with.

It seems in life there is no standing still. Although I have a plant in my house that looks like it defies that principle. It has been with me for over thirty years and somehow it never seems to grow. It is growing just enough to keep living and because of its slow growth, it hasn’t outgrown my house.

Since going the route of an Indie Author I’m not waiting for a publisher to tell me if I will be published, or the sales weren’t good enough on my first book so they won’t publish my subsequent books. All I need to do is produce the work, make it as good as I can, and put it out into the world. Where it goes once it is in the world isn’t up to me, at least not entirely.

It’s not the big things that add up in the end; it’s the hundreds of thousands or millions of little things that separate the ordinary from the extraordinary. Darren Hardy

This blog has been going for over two years and its reach has grown but not to anything huge. But, I’ve never had one day where no one read anything on my blog, and to me, that’s quite a big thing. The biggest fear starting out was will anyone read this? I’ve noticed the compounding effect of views over the two years. My monthly views are higher over time. Often we want to see results quicker and slow and steady isn’t good enough. Slow and steady will take us places we can’t imagine if we keep it up.

Remember the experiment with the glass of water where we keep doubling the amount of water and the glass is only half full when the next time it doubles it is full to overflowing. This is one of the reasons we get disheartened when we are watching the small imperceptible growth of one drop becoming two drops, and two drops becoming four until eventually, one half becomes full. Often we give up before we started seeing results thinking it will never become anything at this rate, but because we quit we don’t know what it could have become.

Most bloggers I am told quit at around nine months and after nine months for most people, it hasn’t grown into that much. If we are trying to make a quick buck blogging or writing it is not the way to do it. Most people would make more money working part-time at Wal-Mart than they will from writing their first book. If they keep at it the magic starts to happen and they may end up with something that working at Wal-Mart part-time could never achieve.

Too often we sabotage ourselves by not getting what we want to do, done. We talk ourselves out of it because it’s easier not to do it and we don’t have to risk failure. But, we can’t risk success if we aren’t willing to face failure. Those who do well in life often get the attitude to fail bigger, fail better.

Life is funny and now that I am here at this stage in my life I am realizing I am a late bloomer. It is very satisfying to be here. My children are grown and taking their place so my writing does not take away time and attention from them. I think having an interest is good for my marriage. It’s certainly good for me.

We can rest assured the compound effect is working in our lives. Is it working in a way we are happy with?

The complete formula for getting lucky: Preparation (personal growth) + attitude (belief mindset) + opportunity (a good thing coming your way) + action (doing something about it) = luck. Darren Hardy

A daily routine built on good habits and discipline separates the most successful among us from everyone else. A routine is exceptionally powerful. Darren Hardy

The real cost of a four-dollar-a-day coffee habit over 20 years is $51,833.79. That’s the power of The Compound Effect. Darren Hardy

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Choices and commitment. Are we committed to our choices?

Are we committed to our choices? Choices and commitment.

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He who has a  why to live for can bear almost any how. Friedrich Nietzsche

Sometimes in life one thing happens and another thing happens and we feel like what we are trying to do will never become reality. This is where commitment comes in. If we are committed to our goal, path, dream, family, career, we play whack-a-mole when we have to. We change things but we keep moving forward. This is what commitment is, if we are derailed too easily then maybe it was a wish and a hope but not something we were committed too.

When we plunk our money down to buy a house or property we are usually committed to getting through whatever challenges it takes for the house or property to finally be ours. We will jump through the hoops to make sure the financing goes through. We will get another lawyer; find the insurance company that will ensure the house or property, we will search for the documents or get documents that prove income. Whatever is asked of us we will do because we are committed and the prize at the end is worth all the trouble it took getting there.

We will not be equally committed to everything in our lives. We need a hierarchy of commitments. Everything in our life is not equal and if we want to know what is on our hierarchy list we need to look at what we are spending our time doing?

We always have to make choices in our lives and when we look back on our lives it is colored by the choices we were committed to. Some people become rich because they were committed to the choices and decisions that led them to a wealthy life. Some people are fit because their choices led them there. Some people have a balanced life where they seem to have enough of everything.

Do we choose what kind of life we want to build?. At certain times in our lives, we feel we have no choices to make, we have to live with the choices already made. That is why when we face big choices like who to marry, what type of business, career, or job to pursue, and where to live we need to make good choices.

We always have choices to make. What we choose for dinner impacts our health. What we choose to listen to impacts our frame of mind. Who we spend time with impacts many things. Do we make our choices based on long term goals or short term goals? We might make a terrible choice in a moment that impacts ourselves and others, forever.

We sometimes make choices that impact our lives innocently believing it was just another Sunday, but it was the Sunday that changed our life. We have many of those kinds of days if we look back. The day we met our husband or wife was usually ordinary in many ways but it changed the course of our life. Did we choose to stay where we grew up or leave? Did we choose to buy a home or property and which home and what property impacted our lives? We don’t know where different choices would have taken us.

Commitment is a choice to give up other choices. Scott Stanley

There is no going back, even if we try and move back to our home town.  We aren’t going back to how it was before we left; it is a new choice going forward. We make choices that impact our lives every day. If we think about them too hard we may feel we should not make any choices. We get stuck. We need to have faith in ourselves, faith in those around us, and faith in our ability to deal with obstacles that get in our way. Sometimes we can only choose between two bad choices or two good choices and we have to make the best choice and live with the consequences. We have to have a commitment to the choice and make the best of it. Other times we can choose again.

We can be too committed to the wrong choice, and not committed enough to a good choice. We don’t always know which is which. Life is about making choices and then making the best of those choices. As Kenny Rogers said, “We need to know when to hold em, when to fold em, and when to run.” Knowing this can be one of the hardest things in life.

We won’t always make the best choice. We won’t always be committed to the right things. We won’t always give up on the wrong things when we should. Life will unfold how it does and some of it seems inevitable, like no matter which choice we make it will be the wrong one, or a bad one. Sometimes we can’t look too far ahead because it will frighten us too much. Sometimes we have to take the next small step and then the next one and eventually we can look forward, and we can look back to see how far we’ve come.

Choices and commitment will color our lives. In the end, our lives will be the sum total of what we have chosen and committed to. When we make our choices are we committed to them?

Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying “I will try again tomorrow.” Mary Anne Radmacher

Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Steve Jobs

Some say that our lives are defined by the sum of our choices. But, it isn’t really our choices that distinguish who we are. It’s our commitment to them. Emily Thorne

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The power of focus, perseverance, and practice. We overestimate what we can do in a year, and underestimate what we can do in ten.

We overestimate what we can do in a year, and underestimate what we can do in ten.

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Your mastery depends on focus, patience, and practice. Not on luck. Robin Sharma

We are told again and again of the power of focus and perseverance. The other night I was watching Utube videos and one caught my eye. It was about the most important thing a Utuber learned. It was the power of focus. He was told by someone he respected he was too scattered in his interests. The advice he was given about his art was to draw the same thing every day. He chose to draw the Australian White Ibis every day and he says it changed the way he looked at things.

I think I understand where he might be coming from. By choosing to write a blog post every day until I got to five hundred blog posts and then cutting down to two posts per week it also changed the way I look at things. When we have to come up with something to say tomorrow, we look at what is going around us in a new way. We are more cognizant of our lives, interactions with others, funny things that happen, and incongruencies in the world. It made me think of questions that don’t have answers, problems that don’t have solutions, and the unintended consequences of what we intended for good.

How much we wish we could change others, but having it come home again that we can only change ourselves. The power of love, kindness, gratitude, and what works in people’s lives. Why are some people always happy? Can we choose to be one of the happy, grateful, optimistic, and encouraging people? Pondering the lives of successful people and how focus, perseverance, and hard work seems to play as much a part as talent and luck. Questioning what makes long, happy, successful marriages. How creativity adds to our lives in big and small ways. The power of books to give us the answers we are seeking.

Success comes from curiosity, concentration, perseverance and self-criticism. Albert Einstein

One of the reasons I was afraid to start a blog was what would I have to say? It surprised me that wasn’t a problem at all. I now have to accept that the reason I hadn’t gotten to writing all those years when I said I wanted to but didn’t, was because I didn’t, not because I couldn’t.

Many of us may say, I wish I’d kept up that interest, hobby, or skill. Why not pick it back up now? We may think we could have been a big-time author, singer, athlete, or whatever if we’d continued. What if being a big-time author, singer, or athlete is not what is important. What if doing something is what is important, not if we make a lot of money from it or not. The accomplishment of being able to play the instrument at family parties so everyone can have a sing-along is worthwhile. Writing down stories is worthwhile even if they never have a wide audience. Being athletic enough to be fit at every stage in life is worthy in itself. Singing in a church choir is a blessing to everyone that hears the choir, and may add a dimension to our life we didn’t know was missing. Drawing and painting add to our lives even if we never make money from our art. Using our creativity is a gift we give ourselves.

I’m going to try to take the same advice the Utuber got and make a drawing a day. I picked up a sketchbook and drawing pencils to keep in the den where I write so I don’t have to go down to my art room to do it. If we want to do things we can’t make them so big that we won’t do them. Going down to my art room seems like a commitment of hours and if I am going to fit drawing in every day it needs to be easy to do a quick little drawing.

Is there something we should bring back into our lives we enjoyed, or have always wanted to do? Is there a better time than now?

Successful people maintain a positive focus in life no matter what is going on around them. Jack Canfield

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit. Will Durant

Happy people plan actions, they don’t plan results. Denis Waitley

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Secrets and Silence: What if your biggest secret became public? by [Belynda Wilson Thomas]

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Making choices. Don’t throw away tomorrow when making choices.

Don't throw away tomorrow when making choices. Making choices.

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Every intersection in the road of life is an opportunity to make a decision. Duke Ellington

I’m looking at the title of the book “Don’t Throw Away Tomorrow” by Robert H. Schuller. Yesterday a talk show host Jamil Jivani told us he almost threw away his tomorrow when he thought the only future he had was a criminal one. He was still in high school when he asked someone if they could get a gun for him. When it came time to pay for the gun he couldn’t do it. He knew it would change everything if he took it and it would change everything if he didn’t. He chose not to take it and one of the reasons was because of what his mother would think of him.

Over that decision, he lost his friends and became somewhat of a loaner and put more effort into school. He moved onto higher education and was speaking somewhere before graduating from university when a professor at Yale University told him he should apply to Yale. He said he would never have thought he could get into Yale but he did and got a law degree.

We come to the fork in the road of life and the decision we make changes everything. Many times we didn’t see that fork coming. We thought everything was just going to be what it had always been but then something life-changing happens. Sometimes we get to make a choice; sometimes the choice is made for us.

Until a person can say deeply and honestly, ‘I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday.’ That person cannot say, ‘I choose otherwise.’ Steven Covey

Some of us spend our time agonizing over whether we should use a comma or a semi-colon and if we do too much of that we can spend years working on something that should have been published years ago.

Not all the choices we make will be the best choice. We will have lessons to learn because of the choices we made.  We can wait for the perfect time to do something but often there is no perfect time and sometimes there is no perfect choice. There is now. There are opportunities now and there will be opportunities in the future but they aren’t always the same opportunities. We need to make the best of the situation we are in.

We need to walk a fine balance between acting too hastily and not acting at all. Sometimes we have the luxury of time and sometimes we don’t. When that young man came face to face with the decision to hand over money for a gun or go in a different direction that determined the path of his life.

Sometimes getting behind the wheel on a particular day changes the course of someone’s life. Choosing to stay in a marriage, raise children, or leaving those children to be raised by someone else changes the course of many lives. Having a baby or not having a baby changes everything.

We don’t know the consequences of decisions sometimes innocently made that have huge ramifications in our lives. Sometimes we have to deal with unintended consequences we couldn’t have seen coming. We will need strength, fortitude, and perseverance to make the best decision for all concerned.

We don’t always get a choice between good and bad. Sometimes the choice is between two good choices or two bad choices, and no matter which of those we choose life will never be the same.

When we need to make these kinds of choices if we have faith in something it will help us. The young man choosing not to get the gun had faith that his mother expected more from him and that was enough for him to make the better choice.

Are there choices we need to make in life that we’ve been holding back on? Can we make choices that have the best chance of a great tomorrow?

By choosing we learn to be responsible. By paying the price of our choices, we learn to make better choices. Martha Sinetar

The entirety of one’s adult life is a series of personal choices, decisions. If we can accept this totally, then we become free people. To the extent that we do not accept this, we will forever feel ourselves a victim. M. Scott Peck

When you have to make a choice and you don’t make it that is in itself a choice. William James

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Why Young Men: Rage, Race and the Crisis of Identity Hardcover – April 3 2018

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Healing the hurts, is forgiveness and gratitude the way to go forward to peace and plenty for all?

Is forgiveness and gratitude the way to go forward to peace and plenty for all? Healing the hurts.

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To forgive is to set a prisoner free, and realize the prisoner was you. Unknown

Yesterday I watched a beautiful tribute to George Floyd put out by President Donald Trump. Because of some copyright infringement, it was taken down from twitter. I didn’t know it existed until my son brought it to my attention. Yesterday I wasn’t listening to the news so perhaps I missed it. I’m glad it was brought to my attention and I hope it is brought to everyone’s attention because it might move us toward healing.

We need to heal the rifts between us. No matter if the rifts are in our societies because of unequal finances or unequal opportunities, perceived opportunity, and favoritism, or injustice, and inhumanity. We all have bias and we all look after ourselves first. Indeed we need to look after ourselves or we can’t help look after anyone else.

For all its failings we’ve built pretty good societies. Most people can build good lives in America and Canada. We are such similar societies problems in one are also problems in the other.

One of the things we don’t seem very good at is seeing opportunity in front of us. This is why people who come from somewhere else often do better than native-born citizens. They are looking for opportunity and they find it, embrace it, and develop it. We might wonder how they came here and so quickly built something we didn’t even know could be built.

We need to be careful of envy, fear, hate, and greed. If we let them rule our life we will not be happy and we will feel unjustly treated and that we are not getting enough. Can we develop an attitude of gratitude and turn what we have into enough and see what we can do to create more?

If we are to go on in a great society we will have to decide to forgive. We need to forgive ourselves and others for not being perfect, for missing the mark, and for being human.

“Decide to forgive
For resentment is negative
Resentment is poisonous
Resentment diminishes
and devours the self.
Be the first to forgive
To smile and take the first step
And you will see happiness bloom
On the face of your human
brother or sister
Be always the first
Do not wait for others to forgive
For by forgiving
You become the master of fate
The fashioner of life
A doer of miracles
To forgive is the highest
most beautiful form of love
In return, you will receive
untold peace and happiness.

Here is the recipe for achieving a truly forgiving heart:

Sunday: Forgive yourself.

Monday: Forgive your family.

Tuesday: Forgive your friends and associates.

Wednesday: Forgive across economic lines within your own nation.

Thursday: Forgive across cultural lines within your own nation.

Friday: Forgive across political lines within your own nation.

Saturday: Forgive other nations:”

Robert Muller, United Nations Assistant Secretary-General

Only the brave know how to forgive. A coward cannot forgive. It is not in their nature.  Mahatma Gandhi

If we can make the wise choice to forgive we can live our lives without anger. We need to forgive the wrongs so that we don’t ruin the things that are right in our lives. Do we need to get rid of the excuses we use to hold onto anger, bitterness, and resentment so we don’t end up with a nightmare life instead of the joyous, wonderful life it can be?

Staying angry at someone who has hurt you is like taking poison and hoping your enemy will die. Our un-forgiveness hurts us more than it does anyone else.  Joyce Meyer

When you forgive, you must cancel the debt. Do not spend your life paying and collecting debts. Joyce Meyer

Your power to choose the direction of your life allows you to reinvent yourself, to change your future, and to powerfully influence the rest of creation. Stephen Covey

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The Healing Reawakening: Reclaiming Our Lost Inheritance Paperback – Sept. 1 2006

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Speaking out about injustice. Healing rifts. We are all in this together.

We are all in this together. Speaking out about injustice. Healing rifts.

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Injustice never rules forever. Seneca

How should we handle injustice? Is it true we can’t create positive change from a negative attitude? Do we have to heal our pain before we can heal the world? Do we need to stop seeing ourselves as victims to access our personal power?

Do you want to be a positive influence in the world? First, get your own life in order.  Ground yourself in the single principle so that your behavior is wholesome and effective. If you do that you will earn respect and be a powerful influence.

Your behavior influences others through a ripple effect. A ripple effect works because everyone influences everyone else. Powerful people are powerful influences. If your life works, you influence your family. If your family works your family influences the community. If your community works, your community influences the nation. If your nation works, your nation influences the world. If your world works, the ripple effect spreads throughout to the cosmos. Remember your influence begins with you and ripples outward. So be sure that your influence is both potent and wholesome. How do I know that this works? All growth spreads out from a fertile and potent nucleus. You are a nucleus. Tao Te Ching

Wayne Dyer was holding an orange in one of his seminars and he said, “If I squeeze this orange what do I get?” The answer of course is orange juice. If we are squeezed what do we produce? When life gets hard and we feel squeezed are we still happy, optimistic, doing our best, loving, and seeing the good in our fellow man?

Do we have compassion for people who have made a bad decision that has the worst results possible? Do we think we too could make decisions with disastrous results? Or do we think they meant for the worst to happen? Bad things happen to good people and breaking things and causing mayhem doesn’t help them, ourselves, or the communities we live in.

Don’t let injustice enslave you. Instead overcome injustice by showing goodness to others, even to your offenders. Romans 12:21

This is hard advice to follow. We want to break something to vent our wrath. We want our hurt to be recognized and injustice to be dealt with. We want to feel powerful and anger feels powerful. The damage done in our wrath is often to our own families, communities, countries. Damaging things does not right the wrong. Innocent people may get caught up in the legal system and it ruins their lives?

If my husband and I get into a fight and I start breaking things what do we have in the end? All we’ll have is a bunch of broken things, a more broken relationship, and my children will think they have a crazy mother.

The money it takes to replace what is broken may come out of their college fund, a family trip, a wedding, or retirement. Will looking at the broken stuff help heal the rift? The chasm between us will grow instead of diminishing. My influence in the family will be less because no one will ever forget the crazy reaction.

Can we stand up for injustice without making things worse?

He who commits injustice is ever made more wretched than he who suffers it. Plato

Let us be enraged about injustice, but let us not be destroyed by it. Bayard Rustin

True patriotism hates injustice in its own land more than anywhere else. Clarence Darrow

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Healing Justice: Stories of Wisdom and Love (How to Die Smiling Book 3) by [Jarem Sawatsky]

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Peace in the world begins in the home. Peace in the home begins with ourselves.

Peace in the home begins with oursleves. Peace in the world begins in the home.

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What can you do to promote world peace? Go home and love your family. Mother Teresa

If we do not find peace at home then where will we find it? Is it true that peace like charity needs to begin in our own hearts, our own homes, and then radiate out into the world?

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.” Peace does not come from where we live. We can move to new places but we will take our peace with us if we have it, not find it in some other locality. We may move from house to house, farm to city, or city to farm looking for peace but if we are ever to find it, we will find it within ourselves.

It is not dependant on whom we live with or where we live or if we are rich or poor, young or old. Wherever we go there we are and if we want to find peace, we will have to look within.

We may have to ask ourselves, what is peace? Is it the absence of war, conflict, or strife? Is peace and happiness within our self? When our lives are filled with gratitude, joy, and love do we feel at peace? If we can forgive others for being human, petty, selfish, self-serving, and not considering our feelings do we feel peace?

We are unlikely to be at peace if we are filled with resentment. When we expect people to be different than what they are will we ever be happy or at peace? When others are upset with us can we still be at peace with them?

I’m reading an anonymous quote that says, “Peace means living in a state where your impact on others is only ever seen as positive. If everybody does that, peace will happen.” Whoever said that might be getting it wrong. Part of the problems we have in life is we expect things to happen from somewhere else first and not from within ourselves.

Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without. Buddha

Is expecting others to only see our actions and reactions as positive even possible in our own families, let alone greater society and the world? Will peace come when we expect less from others, more from ourselves, and we look at what they did as having the best of intentions even when it results in the worst of outcomes?

Many of the ills in the world were created as unintended consequences of things meant for good. We often feel we have a right to our stand on things, we are so right we will fight to our last breath. We do this in our families, our countries, and the world. Everyone is fighting for right so how is everything so wrong? Why does fighting for peace not give us peace?

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:7-8

Do we need to find peace within ourselves? Is it time to look within ourselves for the change we want to see in the world? If we find peace can we create it in our family and can it radiate out from there?

Peace of mind comes when you stop expecting and start accepting. Unknown

Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding. Albert Einstein

Peace begins from within, if you are not peaceful inside, the world you see will be chaotic. Unknown

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Attitudes of Gratitude: How to Give and Receive Joy Every Day of Your Life by [M. J. Ryan, Mark Nepo]

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Do our thoughts create our life? Is it our choice to live a positive or a negative life?

Is it our choice to live a positive or a negative life? Do our thoughts create our life?

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There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so. William Shakespeare

This morning on the radio I hear that our smell is changing during our lockdown. Not because of not bathing although that will do it, but because we are basically a bug condo walking around. We exchange bugs as we go about our days, what we eat, who we meet, how we spend our time affects the bugs that live in our condo. Does our mood affect them? We know there are smells of sickness and smell of health. Cities have smells, the countryside has smells. The forest smells different than the lake. The ocean smells different than rivers. Our homes each smell different, we each smell different so why would it come as a surprise that in lockdown our smell is changing?

We may be eating differently; we may be exercising less or more. We may be walking more frequently or less frequently. We may be happier or unhappier. We may be worried and stressed or we may be comforted by having our family around us in a little safe cocoon. Family tensions may be rising or falling. Problems that seemed huge may be diminished or cracks in our relationships may become chasms.

In Jordan Peterson’s book, 12 Rules for Life, he tells of a friend that came to stay at his place whose demeanor, clothing choices as he started dressing in all black, and smell changed as he moved into an unhealthy place in his mind eventually committing suicide.

According to Dr. Gundry author of The Longevity Paradox, if we feed ourselves right we will feed the right bugs and they will keep us healthy because they too like to live in a great environment. We are their environment. He tells us we are literally a bug condo and those bugs play a big part in our health and we play a big part in which ones thrive by feeding the good ones and starving the bad ones, or we often starve the good ones and feed the bad ones.

Habits are patterned repetitions. Dispose of repeating the negative which is definitely detrimental! Repeat the positive pattern! Andrie Wongso

We will learn a lot from this lockdown experiment. I’ve started listening to Dr. Wayne Dyer’s talks on YouTube. He tells us we get what we think about and of course this isn’t new. Proverbs 23:7 tells us. For as he thinks in his heart so is he.

We need to think about what we want to manifest in our lives because we create our lives with our thoughts.  We need to place our thoughts on the things that are good and not on the things we fear. Job 33 15:16 says. Then he openeth the ears of men and sealeth their instruction. This may be open to interpretation but Wayne Dyer says we need to be careful of the thoughts we think before we go to sleep because those thoughts churn in our brain at night and they are sealed as our instruction.

If we think about doom and gloom, worry, want, lack, and fear we will wake up to all those things. If we go to bed grateful for what we have, who is in our lives, the bounty, and beauty surrounding us we will wake up with those thoughts in our mind. The sun will seem brighter, the sky bluer we may be friendlier to our families and they may be friendlier back. We may feel the universe is a friendlier place because of our attitude and our thoughts.

Even if we don’t believe it. We can do an experiment. We can change our thoughts to be grateful for everything in our life instead of complaining. We can treat people how we would like to be treated and see if it makes a difference. Mother Theresa said, “I see Jesus Christ every day in all his distressing disguises.”

Can we look at people who distress us and see Jesus or say, “There but for the grace of God go I?” Would that change how we treat them? Is it true if we change our thoughts we change our lives? Can our attitude change our smell? Do our thoughts create our life?

A negative attitude will never give you a positive life. Sowmya Kolikapongu

You are in charge of how you react to the people and events in your life. You can either give negativity power… or you can choose happiness instead. Anais Nin

You are free to think thoughts of worry or joy, and whatever you choose will attract the same kind back to you. Worry attracts worry. Joy attracts joy. Rhonda Byrne

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Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao

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Keeping our distance. Doing what needs to be done. Getting through this.

Getting through this. Doing what needs to be done. Keeping our distance.

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Whether we manage to find joy and success in the daily struggle is largely dependent on our ability to persevere through even the toughest adversity without ever giving up. Unknown

Last night we gathered around our computers for another Toastmaster meeting on Zoom. The speeches were good, the camaraderie was nice. We have members showing up who haven’t been able to come to our regular meetings.

People are staying in touch over the phone, internet, FaceBook, and we are sitting and talking with those in our household. A cousin sent a picture on FaceBook of her and her neighbor’s social distancing by sitting more than six feet away in lawn chairs in the front of their houses.

It was beautiful day for a walk with my dog and a phone call to Mom at the same time. Its spring here but my brother is still snowmobiling where he is and it was too cold to do that yesterday he told me in a long phone conversation. We had a lot of laughs and we need to do find the funny in our situation and in the situations we’ve shared. His wife interacts with people who don’t remember but they lost siblings to the pandemic of 1918.

Our grandparents on Dad’s side would have gone through 1918 in Saskatchewan with babies and they all got through it. October 20, 1918, was the first “Churchless Sunday.” They had to go through that pandemic without all the modern amenities we have. In Saskatoon, all places of amusement were closed on October 17, 1918, and the council passed an order to re-open such places on November 25, 1918, but only between 5:15 and 7 p.m. Schools were permitted to open on December 2, 1918.

Hope is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today. Thich Nhat Hanh

Four-ply cheesecloths were used as masks in 1918. By looking at what was done in the past we have an idea of what worked. Social distancing is what worked; from everything I’ve read, everywhere people celebrated in large numbers the death toll was higher.

Some people are really getting into cooking and baking. It is time-consuming, creative and rewarding when everyone sits down and enjoys our culinary creation. Having a fabulous meal to look forward to might be one of the bright spots in our day.

We need to have faith that what we are doing with social distancing is making a difference and keep doing it. We won’t know the worst is over until it’s over and we need to keep doing our part to keep the numbers down.

We have so many ways to amuse ourselves now but knowing we can’t do something makes us want to do it more. Keep on keeping on, we must be steadfast and get through this.

We can smile, wave, and have a laugh but are we making sure we are keeping our distance?

The friend in my adversity I shall always cherish most. I can better trust those who helped to relieve the gloom of my dark hours than those who are so ready to enjoy with me the sunshine of my prosperity. Ulysses S. Grant

He knows not his strength who hath not met adversity. William Samuel Johnson

I ask not for a lighter burden but for broader shoulders. Jewish Proverb

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Tough Times Never Last, but Tough People Do! Mass Market Paperback – May 1 1984

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Entertaining ourselves. Are we watching too much TV? Can we find something better to do?

Are we watching too much TV? Can we find something better to do? Entertaining ourselves.

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People will come to adore the technologies that undo their capacities to think. Neil Postman

Tonight is my first virtual Toastmaster meeting. I’ve been part of some virtual training, and virtual Executive meetings with Toastmasters. Tonight I give a speech virtually.

There are virtual Toastmaster groups that already exist. I have never attended one. Now, until at least June our Toastmaster group will only meet virtually. It will give us enough time to experience creating virtual meetings. Just one meeting doesn’t give us enough time to work out the bugs, but week after week we will get better.

Air quality has improved with this slowdown across the world. Is there a way we can continue economically without so much pollution? We were asking this question before this? We’ve now been shown the pollution can clear up quickly, but what do we do about this going forward?

None of us want to go to the beach virtually. My husband has been watching travel videos and they are amazing. It is armchair travel at its finest. It seems everywhere in the world we would like to go someone has made a travel video.

How long will we need to entertain ourselves? Is needing entertainment a sign of something missing in our lives? Should we be okay being with ourselves? Not completely by ourselves, not a hermit.

True joy is the difference between just amusing ourselves to death and creating meaningful pleasure. Sidney Poitier

Timothy Brock and Stephen Livingston from Ohio State University tackled the Psychology of Entertainment Media. They restricted their definition of entertainment to passive consumption of some form of entertainment, either TV, radio, film, print, theatre, or sports spectacles. TV is the most common. It seems TV relaxes us. That relaxation ends when we turn it off. Watching TV sucks out our energy and leaves us depleted. We appear to have more difficulty concentrating after viewing TV than before viewing it. This difficulty is not reported after reading, playing sports, or engaging in hobbies.  We also report our mood is usually better after reading, playing sports, or engaging in hobbies but not after watching TV.

The irony of watching TV is we often watch it must longer than we intended even though prolonged viewing is less rewarding. In the studies, the more people sat and watched TV the less satisfaction they derived from it. Heavy TV viewers, those that watch more than 4 hours per day reported they enjoy it less than those who report they view only two hours or less per day.

The findings were that men need more entertainment. They also found, the more we are willing to think about things for ourselves the less we need to be entertained.

Brock and Livingston assessed three factors in their study. Drive – how actively do we pursue passive entertainment? Utility – how useful is passive entertainment? Passivity – how active do we like our entertainment to be.

Men seem to have a stronger drive to be entertained than women. Men scored higher on the amount of money spent on entertainment, the daily need for entertainment, and the inability to function without entertainment.

How much we like active problem solving and critical thinking has an inverse relationship with how much entertainment we need. Can we learn to entertain ourselves with puzzles, creative pursuits, and other more active outlets? Where are we on the scale of TV watching? How are we entertaining ourselves?

What the advertiser needs to know is not what is right about the product but what is wrong about the buyer. Neil Postman

One of the things you’re doing when you make art, apart from entertaining yourself and other people, is trying to see what ways of working feel good, what feels right. Brian Eno

If students get a sound education in the history, social effects and psychological biases of technology, they may grow to be adults who use technology rather than be used by it. Neil Postman

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Amusing Ourselves to Death: Public Discourse in the Age of Show Business Paperback – Dec 27 2005

by Neil Postman (Author), Andrew Postman (Introduction) 4.5 out of 5 stars 535 ratings#1 Best Seller in Media And Society