Fun and frivolity, laughter and karaoke. Do we have enough fun?

Do we have enough fun? Fun and frivolity, laughter and karaoke.

Painting by Belynda Wilson Thomas

If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing your life can be. Maya Angelou

Last night we went to Karaoke and potluck night at a Toastmaster buddies house. Her husband is a musician/singer and most of us are not singers, karaoke or otherwise.

“I’m not singing, are you singing,” we all asked? No one was going to sing and yet we had a great time laughing and singing. Most of us got up and did our rendition of something. The music and the words on the laptop were not always in sync. Sometimes singing was in the song we thought was instrumental. We laughed our way through songs, we were good sports, we got up as groups and sang loudly, and exuberantly.

If we were all practiced karaoke people we might have been put off by the music and words not being quite in sync, or someone singing in what we thought was an instrumental version. We might have taken our performance too seriously; we might have let trying to be perfect interfere with having fun.

The karaoke part of the evening turned out much better than I expected. We were better sports than I thought we’d be. We got out of our comfort zone, we had fun. So much of our entertainment these days is watching someone else, play a sport, sing a song, dance, act, etc. We forget how much fun it is to participate and create our own fun.

Being part of a group means we can participate in fun activities, we can be light-hearted, we can play, we can get out of our comfort zone, and we can laugh.

Laughter is the best medicine. Karaoke is available to all of us who have access to YouTube and a laptop.

Game nights are ways to get people together to have fun being participants instead of viewers. Another Toastmasters group is putting on a comedy night at a local bar. The organizer would like four members of our Toastmasters group to step up and perform.  I’ve never done comedy, this may be an opportunity. When an opportunity presents itself, do we grab it, or do we spend the rest of our life thinking we wish we’d done that?

Stop dreaming about your bucket list and start living it. Annette White

It won’t change our life. We are unlikely to be discovered as the next singer or comedian if we step up, but we can say we did it. We got out of our comfort zone; we took a walk on the wilder side.  We had fun; if no one is willing to participate it is hard to put on events. If we participate when someone else puts something on and they participate when we do, events go well, everyone has fun, and people are willing to host, plan, and put on events.

Are our lives about wringing as much fun as we can out of our life? When we show up with our party face on, ready to participate and have fun we are doing our part.

Are we having as much fun as we can? Do we laugh enough, with others, and at our selves, or do we take ourselves too seriously? Do we only want to participate when we can shine, and be the star? If we want more fun in our lives, we have to get out and participate. Sometimes we have to be the catalyst for the fun, and sometimes we have to join in.

When we sit back in the corner, sometimes the party is over before we get up the courage to take our turn. All of a sudden everyone puts their coats on and the party is over. We missed our chance to bring more fun into our life, step out of our comfort zone, grow, be silly, or do something we secretly long to do. We never know when we’ll get another opportunity. If we grab hold of every opportunity when it presents itself, don’t we live a life with fewer regrets?

The things that matter most in our lives are not fantastic or grand. They are moments when we touch one another. Jack Kornfield

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Choose to bring more laughter, fun, frivolity and humor into our lives. See the funny side.

See the funny side. Choose to bring more laughter, fun, frivolity, and humor into our lives.

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You don’t stop laughing because you grow old; you grow old because you stop laughing. Michael Pritchard

Last night at Toastmasters our theme was humor. Everything was geared to humor. It was a light-hearted, funny evening.

A few people throughout the evening noted that some people have a humorous side and some of us don’t seem to. We see the more serious side of life. We were born to laugh, look at a baby and see how often they laugh. What happened to all that laughter we had as children?

Do some of us have a humorous disposition? What do the rest of us have, a miserable one? Is it possible to develop a humorous disposition? One of the best things in life is shared laughter. We look forward to seeing certain people because they always make us laugh. Is there anyone that looks forward to seeing us because we make them laugh?

Researchers have discovered that people who hold a pencil between their teeth in an artificial smile found funny videos funnier. If we did it in front of other people they would laugh and then we would laugh. It is like the anti-negativity rock I picked up, one for mom and one for me. As my sister says whose boss gave her one, every time I rub the anti-negativity rock all over myself, it makes me laugh; the laughing is probably what produces the anti-negativity.

We can have a joke a day sent to our inbox, or we can browse Facebook or YouTube for funny videos. There is always a laugh on Facebook and bless the people who look for the funnies and post them.

There is humor all around us. If we look for it we will find it, if we want to be serious, dour, and miserable that is our choice. If we want more laughter in our life we can even try fake laughter, which if we try it, often turns into real laughter.

A good laugh is sunshine in the house. William Thackeray

If we want more laughter in our life we are told to surround our self with funny people. This is great advice but not everyone has access to a new group to socialize with. It may be easier and better to figure out how to bring more humor into our life than look for other people to bring humor into our life. We need to bloom where we are planted. It may be hard to bring more mirth into a very serious, uptight family.

It doesn’t mean it is impossible. We may even think certain groups are not where funny happens. Toastmasters are a group that a lot of people think is staid, serious, not for me, until they come out to one of our club meetings. We have guests all the time who seem surprised they enjoyed themselves. They didn’t know what to expect but it wasn’t a fun evening of laughter.

Joining groups is good for our health, and one of the reasons joining groups is good for our health is probably because in groups we laugh, joke, and look on the lighter side of life.

If we look at life as serious business, we might find it hard to see the funny in our life. One of the things my husband says to me is, “I love to see you laugh.” We need to laugh, when we can laugh together we see the funny side when we don’t laugh little things can become irritants.

We hear from people who have lost spouses that they miss the little things. They miss the shared laughter, fights, and rituals. Don’t we love to hear a joke and share it with our partner? Don’t let the funny moments in our lives pass without laughing and sharing, we don’t know how long we will have to laugh, let’s make the most of it.

Laughter is like the oil that makes our lives run smoothly if we can see the humor it can take the sting out of anger.  We naturally turn our anger, frustration, annoyance, and irritation into laughter, eventually. Some of our funniest stories are about things that happened to us that weren’t funny at the time, but through the virtue of time and distance, we can see the funny in them.

The problem is eventually is too long to wait. How can we speed up the process? We find it easier to laugh at other people’s mistakes quicker than we laugh at our own. If we can remove ourselves from the story maybe we can see the funny quicker. After all, we’d be rolling on the floor if it happened to someone else. It’s our choice to see the funny side of life, or not.

A well-balanced person is one that finds both sides of an issue laughable. Herbert Procknow

As soon as you have made a thought, laugh at it. Lao Tsu

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