Choosing how we spend our days is choosing how we spend our lives.

Choosing how we spend our lives is choosing how we spend our days.

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How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives. Annie Dillard

We always have to make choices about how we spend our time. It seems to me something has to be left undone or never started. We can, we are told organize our lives in such a way that we can get it all done. If we get up early enough, are organized enough we can read the books we should read, exercise to be fit and healthy, cook healthy meals, keep our homes spotless, spend quality time with our spouse and children, stay on top of current events and make ourselves look like supermodels every day.

Whew, I’m tired already. I gave up all that, a long time ago and settled for what I think is “Good enough.”  Perfection is the enemy of the good and we need to cut ourselves some slack. Some slack, but not too much slack, or our lives can fall into disarray. How do we walk the fine balance?

In the early years of raising kids, I had no time for reading except children’s books. Fortunately, some of the best books are children’s books. Who can forget “The Little Engine that Could?” How many of us when we hit a tough spot have found the words, “I think I can, I think I can” going through our mind? Who can read “I’ll Love You Forever” without tearing up? Didn’t we all relate to “The Velveteen Rabbit” as well-loved stuffed animals became embarrassingly threadbare and discolored?

We get through our children’s early years and then we are into dance lessons, hockey, soccer, basketball, cheerleading, karate, music lessons, and other activities that leave us with no time. Finally, our children grow up and we have a little breathing room for activities of our own. If we have something we want to do, now is the time to do it. We will still have to put things off to have time for things that seem more important. We will still have to choose how we spend our time. We will only make time to join a band, write a book, take a class, paint, go to the gym, or whatever we have dreamed of doing when we finally have time to do it if we carve out time for it. This is my time for…  and we stick to it.

Some writers confuse authenticity, which they ought always to aim at, with originality, which they should never bother about. W.H. Auden

Many people tell me they want to write a book. They have a story to tell but they don’t want to hurt any feelings. I wonder if any of us can tell the “True” story. The “True” story has many sides and ours is only one of them. I believe in “The Lie that Tells a Truth” fictionalize your story and tell the truth but combine many stories into one for two reasons. If we don’t have to worry about getting the facts straight but instead can get to the heart of the story so people will understand what went on and how it impacted others we can tell the story by getting into the minds of the characters and showing their feelings and reactions. As we do this we may come away understanding the motivations or think we understand the motivations of those who may have hurt us intentionally or unintentionally. Many people, who hurt others, are hurt people themselves. In a novel, we can explore what made people into who they are and what changed them. We can redeem unredeemable characters; we can do the thing we wish we’d done.

The trickiest book to write would be an autobiography, where we are writing about our own life, and the second trickiest would be a biography where we are writing about someone else’s. Can we ever know anyone completely? Do we even know ourselves completely? Do we know the motivations that led to success or failure? What we leave out and what we include will color a story? How can someone’s niece, even a trained psychologist understand all the events that impacted someone? Would it have been better to have written a work of fiction where more could be said to understand someone? Something like, “Of Human Bondage by W. Somerset Maugham or Ayn Rand books.

If we have a story to tell, when are we going to start telling it?

There are thirty-two ways to write a story, and I’ve used every one, but there is only one plot – things are not as they seem. Jim Thompson

I believe in not quite knowing. A writer needs to be doubtful, questioning. I write out of curiosity and bewilderment… I’ve learned a lot I could not have if I were not a writer. William Trevor

We want to know more about people who fail. We care about people who are scared, who act foolishly, who are tricked by their vanity and trapped by their desires…. Flawed characters are the unforgettable ones. Susan Shaughnessy

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If you want to write a book. Make it a habit, make it happen.

Make it a habit, make it happen. If you want to write a book.

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If you want to change the world, pick up your pen. Martin Luther

How many of us want to write a book, have thought about writing a book, or are in the middle of writing a book? It is a huge endeavor and it is only going to happen if we write daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly.

There are many experts who will show us how to write a book and become rich and famous. If we want to become rich and famous we might want to rethink our strategy. There are many ways to become rich and many ways to become famous but writing a book will not necessarily result in either. The average book doesn’t sell more than 500 copies so it is not a get rich quick scheme. There are writers who are very rich and no one says it can’t happen to us. Authors doing well usually have many books under their belt, not just one.

There is nothing wrong with reading books on writing, taking classes on writing, and attending seminars on writing. But, they are not writing and they will not lead to a book of our own unless we sit down and write.

We can if we sit down and write, produce enough words to make a book. If we want a good book that is a different matter.

What makes a good book?

A good book must be compelling enough that we read it to the end.

There must be some moments of wow, I’ve thought that too.

It may teach us something, surprise, or shock us, but at the very least it should make us think.

It should be discussable.

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This is how you do it: you sit down at the keyboard and you put one word after another until it’s done. It’s that easy, and that hard. Neil Gaiman

I’ve always wanted to write, but I haven’t always written. If we don’t write we can’t call ourselves a writer. In 2002 my husband brought home an old laptop. I sat down at the kitchen table and began to write in the evenings after the kids went to bed. This started my habit of writing. I kept a writing log of when I started when I stopped, and how many words I produced.

My son saw me writing and he began asking. Mom, do you want to publish your writing. At first, I shrugged, but over time I said, “Yeah, I think I’d like to.” Then he started telling me I should start a blog, “All writers should have a blog.” I shrugged my shoulder over that one also, until one day I saw the book, “1000 True Fans” by Kevin Kelly. He tells us if we can develop 1000 true fans we can create a market for our work. 1000 isn’t a million. 1000 might be doable and so with his help, this blog was started in July 2018.

On the long August weekend past, I faced another fear; formatting my novel for Kindle Publishing. All the reports on how hard it was intimidated me, but I thought I would try to format it myself. When I followed the directions it worked like a charm. Then my son asked what my publishing date was. When I realized we could pre-publish I picked the date September 5, 2020, and committed myself to call my novel complete.

If we don’t set an end date writing a book can take as long as we let it. Some authors never finish, because when is it actually finished? When we decide it is. For the next one, I already have an end date in mind.

Creating the habit of writing and setting goals will get us where we want to go. Everything in life becomes a habit that adds or detracts from our life. When we reach a goal or dream we need to have another goal or dream.  We never want to run out of goals. Prolific authors like James Patterson believe they will run out of life before they run out of ideas to write about.  Ideas are all around us if we look for them. We should never save something for another book, put everything we have into the one we are writing. There will be more to put into the next one.

Are we dreaming of writing, or writing about our dreams?

Books can truly change our lives: the lives of those who read them, the lives of those who write them. Readers and writers alike discover things they never knew about the world and about themselves. Lloyd Alexander

Every secret of a writer’s soul, every experience of his life, every quality of his mind, is written large in his works. Virginia Wolf

The art of writing is discovering what you believe. Gustave Flaubert

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The power of storytelling. We are all storytellers.

We are all storytellers. The power of storytelling.

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Storytelling is the most powerful way to put ideas into the world. Robert McKee

Listening to Margaret Atwood on YouTube last night she tells us writing is hope. It is hope we will finish what we started. It is hope what we spent all this time on will be good and worth reading. It is hope it will get out into the world and we hope it will get read once it gets there.

Writing is a way to make sense of the world. In fiction, we makeup stories or take a nugget of life and turn it into something else and if we do it well our lies tell the truth of life. In books we understand not just what happens, the choices someone made, but why they made those choices.

My mother tells me about someone who is in the hospital and is only allowed, two visitors. His mother drives a long way to see him and she isn’t one of the visitors he chooses to see. There could be a complete novel in how that relationship got to that particular moment. Would this be the inciting incident that starts the book, would it be in the middle, or at the end?

Life is full of moments, and writers take those moments and weave them into their books, and even when a character might be based on someone it isn’t based only on them. Life in novels has to be bigger, full of more challenges and problems than real life. Often characters in books grow more than we seem to in real life. They see the light and sometimes we see it through characters we read about when we didn’t notice it in real life.

Life is a marathon and so is writing. If our goal is to become rich and famous we may be disappointed. If our goal is to write, to tell our stories, and we do, what we get out of it will be more than what we put in. Writing changes us when we write and it changes us when we read. Much of the change that happens in our lives will be the result of the books that we read and the actions we take. Reading books shapes our thinking in big and small ways. Books teach us about the human condition and help us understand ourselves and others on a deeper level.

Last night I was listening to another author on YouTube Jerry B. Jenkins he’s written 190 books in forty years. I thought I hadn’t read any of his books, but I read some of the Left Behind series and maybe others because he writes in multiple genres biography, self-help, romance, mystery, science fiction, and young adult. Now, that is a writing career.

Fiction has a unique role in conveying Truth. In fact, only fiction that is Truth with a capital T is worthwhile. Jerry B. Jenkins

There are so many books out there we may think what could we possibly say that hasn’t been said? We love stories and no one can tell our story. No one will see things exactly the same as us.

When we listen to writers talk they often have a self-reflection that is enviable. If we all wrote would we be more self-reflective and would that make the world better? Would we think we can fix things in real life as we can in a book, and make matters worse? The unintended consequences of our good intentions make a difference in real life. In a book, the consequences are exactly what we want them to be.

We pass on our knowledge through stories. Some people tell their stories in the living room, around the dining room table, or in a coffee shop. Salespeople tell stories, lawyers tell stories, parents and other family members tell stores. When people move us it is usually through a story. Some people write their stories down. Telling our stories is part of life. We learn and grow by telling our stories and listening and reading other people’s stories.

There are many stories to tell, there are many ways to tell them. Are we finding ways to tell our stories?

Stories have to be told or they die, and when they die, we can’t remember who we are or why we’re here. Sue Monk Kidd

We are all storytellers. We all live in a network of stories. There isn’t a stronger connection between people than storytelling. Jimmy Neil Smith

You’re never going to kill storytelling because it’s built into the human plan. We come with it. Margaret Atwood

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Is there a story we need to tell? If not now, when? Telling our stories.

Telling our stories. Is there a story we need to tell? If not now, when?

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Stories have to be told or they die, and when they die, we can’t remember who we are or why we’re here. Sue Monk Kidd

Yesterday I received a gift in the mail. My cousin asked me to send her a copy of my novel. She said she would make notes as she read it. I was not expecting what I got back. She filled three notebooks full of edits. She’s a retired teacher and this is the kind of edit that costs money and takes a long time to do. I am so grateful for the work she put into this. My novel will be stronger for it.

I started working on her notes last night. I’m also going through scene by scene and using her notes as a guide for my own questions. Do I start each scene with a hook and end with a cliff hanger? She gave me some actionable feedback when she called me to tell me she was sending her notes. I didn’t answer the question she wanted to be answered. I’m fixing that.

Everyone who reads my novel has given me feedback. This is why we need early readers. We need people who look at it with fresh eyes and give us another perspective. They ask us questions we might not have answers to but we should figure out what those answers are. Do we understand our audience? Do we know what genre the novel we have written fits into?

Learning to write is a process. We can edit, edit, and edit some more, but at some point, we have to say it is finished and move onto the next project. My son has been prodding me to do that for a while now. I’m getting there. When I get through this round of edits I’ll be closer. Then I’m told I need to read it out loud.

After that, a professional edit and then I should be able to publish. The next novel I don’t think will take anywhere near as much time. I will write and edit in Microsoft Word. I know more about structure, plotting, and organizing my writing.

The purpose of a storyteller is not to tell you how to think, but to give you things to think upon. Brandon Sanderson

Yesterday I stopped by Indigo and another book on writing called to me. Save The Cat! Writes A Novel by Jessica Brody based on the books by Blake Snyder. The reason I bought the book is Blake Snyder has developed ten genres that any story falls into. I’ve found categorizing my novel difficult but voila there’s my category in this book. My category is Institutionalized so my characters will Join Em, Leave Em, or take Em down.

I have purchased many books on writing. I wouldn’t want to part with any of them. They have all helped me on my journey.

The author also talks about sequels and how they fit into story structure. The other book on story structure that has really helped me is My Story Can Beat Up Your Story by Jeffrey Alan Schechter. It doesn’t matter what we write, it is like building a house. We need the scaffolding to hang our story on. Without structure, we are wandering in the wilderness stringing words together that don’t build anything. Like we piled the lumber, cement, and windows into a pile, instead of placing them where they need to be to build the house. We are the architect and the builder of our stories.

It doesn’t matter if we plot it all out first, or we write as we go, we need to fit it into the structure. Just like building a house we can buy a window at a time, as long as we know where to put it.

We have walls in our house to hang artwork on; we need structure to hang our beautiful sentences on. Our readers need to want to know what happens next to keep turning the page. Some writers have us waiting for their next book because we have to know the answer to the questions they left hanging. We stay up long past our bedtime if the writer keeps us saying, just one more chapter.

If we want to write, we should write. There are lots of books, classes, courses, and writing groups to join. Is it true when we find our voice, we find ourselves?

Is there a story in us we need to tell? Have we already begun the journey? If not now, when? What are we waiting for?

We are all storytellers. We all live in a network of stories. There isn’t a stronger connection between people than storytelling. Jimmy Neil Smith

Storytelling is the most powerful way to put ideas into the world. Robert McKee

Stories are memory aids, instruction manuals, and moral compasses. Aleks Krotoski

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Finding groups to support us on our journey. Coming out of the writer’s closet.

Coming out of the writer's closet. Finding groups to support us on our journey.

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My second husband encouraged me to go to a writing group at our local theatre. It was my coming out of the closet moment. Sue Townsend

Yesterday was another great day at the Writers Group. If you want to write I suggest you find a supportive writers group. They will each have their own personality but if you are looking for one you will probably find one that fits.

When we join a group we get to meet other people further along our journey. They know things we don’t know, they’ve already conquered challenges we may have.

We write for ourselves, we write what is important to us, we write about our journey even when we write fiction. A new person came yesterday she’s written a book called My Unforeseen Journey Losing Sight Gaining Vision by Melanie Taddeo-Nxumaio. She suffered a stroke which left her legally blind and paralyzed on her left side.

The leader of our group Elizabeth Banfalvi has written many books on meditation one of them is Meditation, Defining Your Space. Paul Edward Costa Mississauga’s Poet Laureate has written Dark Magic on the Edge of Town. This is a small sample of the variety of writers we meet in writers groups.

People write about recovering from grief, overcoming rough childhoods, fiction, memoir, and whatever their interest and focus are. A new member who came with Melanie is writing about Louis St. Laurent the 12th Prime Minister of Canada.

As Elizabeth says we are not competing with each other. We can learn from each other, support each other, and grow with each other. Writing can be a lonely life, and non-writers do not want to hear about our writing life. Writing group buddies do, they have insights to share, and love to hear our insights. How exciting can a conversation be about the oxford comma? This is when you use a comma before ‘and’ or ‘or’ in a string of three or more, for example, they wrote fiction, memoir, and self-help.

I know I was supposed to be a writer; I had made that declaration in the closet of my soul. Padgett Powell

We love to get together with like-minded people. Writers are no different. My husband wonders what we do for four hours when I tell him next month I intend to stay for another hour and give a reading of my work. He doesn’t have to see why four hours that would bore him to death; are what I look forward to every month.

Many writers find their family does not read their books. It is why even if we purchase the book ourselves, and give it to them, we shouldn’t be surprised if it is never opened. They might not even see the lovely inscription we wrote in it. They are proud of us, they encourage us. It is still worth giving it to them. One day a grandson or granddaughter may find it, may read it and maybe encouraged to write themselves.

I’ve kept a journal partly or maybe totally because my grandmother kept one. A grandmother I never had an opportunity to meet. Journals I never got to read because they were destroyed by squirrels, except for one.

If we want to write, we must write. The end result is unknown. Not knowing where our journey will take us is part of what makes it worthwhile. We may be fast writers, or slow. Maybe we can’t wait to get our work out there, or we aren’t sure we ever want to put it out there. That decision can be made when the work is completed or partially completed, but it can’t be made if it is never written.

Is it time to come out of the closet as a writer? Do we first have to admit to ourselves we want to be a writer? When we take the step will the bridge be there? Where will our journey take us? Will we find help along the way?

Writers wear their skeletons on their sleeves. While the rest of the world locks them in a closet. Unknown

I do find it therapeutic, writing about stuff that was frightening and painful as a child, and managing to see it from an adult’s point of view. To get it out of the closet onto paper, metaphorically speaking. It is therapeutic. Unknown

Don’t keep your Muse locked up in the closet. Set them free to dance across the page and what they create will be a masterpiece. Michelle C. Hillstrom

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Telling our stories. No one will benefit more from telling our stories than ourselves. Life is a journey and telling our story helps make sense of it.

No one will benefit more from telling our stories than our self. Life is a journey and telling our stories helps make sense of it. Telling our stories.

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The telling of your stories is a revolutionary act. Sam keen

What motivates us? What keeps us going? We all have to find something within ourselves to keep going when all we want to do is quit. Those of us that are close enough to rally around my niece who lost her husband will be there for a day, for phone calls, but she will have to pick up the pieces herself.

My recommendation and I wonder if it is too soon to suggest, is she writes. In one of my writing books called The Lie That Tells a Truth by John Dufresne. Only fiction can tell the real truth because we don’t have to hold back about how what we did affect someone, or how what they did affect us. A character can take revenge we wish we could have, or take the chance we were too afraid to take.

Yesterday I learned that published writers are using Google Docs to write their novels. They are using Google Docs for a few reasons. Number one it is free and because it is in the cloud you never lose your work. The document can be accessed from any device and we don’t have to worry about what copy we are working on.

If we have people we are sharing our work with it can be shared so everyone is reading and making notes and suggestions in the same document so editing is easier. In Google Docs we can have different types of documents.  Spreadsheets are effective for plotting.

I’m going to try Google Docs and see what I think. We gather tools along the way that make things easier. The author that recommended Google Docs has been publishing since 2010.  She’s an Indie author and has made over a million dollars. Her name is Sara Cannon.

When we deny the story, it defines us. When we own the story, we can write a brave new ending. Brene Brown

Telling our stories is therapeutic. Some of us have to make up stories because our lives have not been filled with angst and turmoil. Other people need to write to make sense of the lives they’ve lived. We can learn a lot from reading whether we read fiction or non-fiction. The characters may not be real in fiction but the truths they tell about the human condition are. We sometimes think we know characters better than people we interact with every day.

Sometimes a character will help us understand what someone we know is going through. This is the power of writing and telling our stories. We may tell our story in a speech, novel, song, painting, dance, or another form of self-expression. What is important is that we express ourselves in some way. Self-expression leads to healing, self-discovery, self-awareness, and self-acceptance.

Everyone has a story. Just because we write something does not mean we need to put it out there for public consumption. But, then again why not? We have no idea how our story may resonate with someone. Who we may touch, how they will be moved, encouraged, entertained, or made to understand something in a new way.

If we have ever felt the urge to write it has never been easier to get the words onto paper or on a computer. The words still have to come from us, that hasn’t changed at all. We still have to sit down and make it happen. We have to find the motivation to keep going when we’d rather quit because we know it isn’t very good anyway.

There has never been so much advice on how to write. Here I am, giving some myself. If you have something to say, can you find a way to say it? The person who will get the most out of telling your story is you. Writing is a journey, and on any journey, we learn things we didn’t know, see things in a new light, and make sense of things we couldn’t figure out. We may make friends with parts of ourselves we’ve disliked, or wished were different. When we build our own world or part of it, we can make it anything we want. What kind of world would you build? Who is the hero in the story you want to tell?

When we cannot find a way of telling our story, our story tells us-we dream these stories. We develop symptoms, or we find ourselves acting in ways we don’t understand. Stephen Grosz

Story, as it turns out, was crucial to our evolution, more so than opposable thumbs. Opposable thumbs let us hang on; story told us what to hang on to. Lisa Cron

After nourishment, shelter, and companionship, stories are the thing we need most in the world. Philip Pullman

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Feel the fear, make a decision. Are we just one decision away from a totally different life? Sometimes all we have to do is ask.

Are we just one decision away from a totally different life? Sometimes all we have to do is ask. Feel the fear, make a decision.

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Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday. Dale Carnegie

Yesterday I had the privilege of giving the test speech at a Toastmasters contest. This is the speech that the contestants in the Evaluation Contest evaluate. I asked my husband if he would like to come. My part would be in the first half of the contest I assured him, and then we could leave.

Just before the contest was to start I realized the order was not how I thought. The Evaluation Contest was set to take place in the second half of the contest. One of the members of the club who knew my plans to leave after my part of the contest said to the gentleman helping organize the contest he should speak to the organizer. “Not me,” he said with a laugh.

“I will,” I said. I stated my case and they graciously changed the order of the meeting. One of the reasons I hadn’t enquired what order I would be speaking is because there is an order of importance in speaking or performing instances. The most important event, speaker, comes last. The most important segment of the contest is the International Speakers Contest. The winner of this contest as they go up the levels competes at the Toastmasters International Speech Contest with contestants from 142 countries.

Had I been there by myself would I have spoken up? I might still have been upset, but because I promised my husband he’d only be there for about an hour, I felt I had to speak up.

How often in life do we accept things we don’t want to accept and we could have changed them by speaking up? Sometimes no amount of speaking up will give us what we want. Even if they couldn’t have changed the order, because I literally didn’t ask until the Chair was almost ready to open the meeting. I would still feel better because I stood up.

There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you. Maya Angelou

The meeting was beautifully handled. The Chair was gracious, enthusiastic and warm. The feedback from four evaluators can be used to improve my speech. This was my first opportunity to be a test speaker.

Because I have a position as Area Director I am not eligible to enter contests. This is a way to improve my speaking because it is different when you speak before a club that doesn’t know anything about you but your name and title of speech before they hear you speak.

If I get the opportunity to be a test speaker again in this contest season I’ll take it. We improve by doing and incorporating the evaluations will help me grow and develop as a speaker.

As I said in the speech I gave yesterday. Feel the Fear, Make a Decision we never know where a decision, or saying yes to an opportunity will take us. We are just one decision away from a totally different life.

Are there opportunities presenting themselves we should take? What would be the change in our lives if we said yes when an opportunity presented itself?

Accomplishment will prove to be a journey, not a destination. Dwight D. Eisenhower

It’s your reaction to adversity, not adversity itself that determines how your life’s story will develop. Dieter F. Uchtdorf

Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try. John F. Kennedy

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Feel the Fear . . . and Do It Anyway (r): Dynamic Techniques for Turning Fear, Indecision, and Anger into Power, Action, and Love Paperback – Dec 26 2006

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If they can do it, so can we. Inspired by people we meet on the journey.

Inspired by people we meet on the journey. If they can do it, so can we.

Painting by Belynda Wilson Thomas

Those we meet can change us, sometimes so profoundly we are not the same afterwards. Life of Pi

Yesterday I went to The Writers Group after being away for a few months, our fearless leader is ill but the meeting was handled well. I had the good fortune of sitting beside a published author who attended the meeting for the first time. We had some time to talk so I asked about his publishing process. He’s published on Kobo and if anyone wants to check out Paul Stegweit’s books you can find a link to purchase them through his website paulstegweit.com.

One of the things that struck me when I went to Paul Stegweit’s website is his covers. His granddaughter produces his latest covers and even though we know we can’t judge a book by its cover we are drawn first to the cover.

It is great meeting people who are ahead of us on the journey. The editing stage is taking me forever, partly because I don’t want to pay someone until I think I’ve made it as good as I can.

Paul Stegweit uses Grammarly for editing and so do I, although I’m still using the free version. Yesterday, I found a new editing tool I’m trying out. I have a free fourteen-day trial of ProWritingAidPremium. It looks amazing. I was able to print out a report showing sentence length, something called sticky sentences (sticky sentences contain too many common words, they slow the reader down). One of the comments I’ve gotten from readers is they found it slow getting into my novel. I have 961 sticky sentences the goal is zero. I need to pick up the pace of my novel by looking at verb tenses. There are many other reports generated and I printed it out so I could compare where I am after editing compared to where I started. On my spelling, I got 97 out of 100.

I find it’s hard to edit when I look at the pages I’ve written. If a word is misspelled that is easy to correct but little inconsistencies in our writing are one of the hardest things to catch. This program helps with this. They even have a report you can run on your manuscript for that.

At the end of this edit, a human editor is still advised. After all, it is not computers that will read our work, but when we give an editor something better to work with they can help elevate our novel to a higher level instead of finding the mistakes we should have found ourselves.

How far we travel in life matters far less than those we meet along the way. Robert Louis Stevenson

The journey of becoming a writer is a long one; at least it is for me. Writing fits in the periphery of my life, perhaps that is why I enjoy it so much. Writing doesn’t have to pay the bills. No one tells me what to write about, or what not to write about, or how often I need to write.

I hope my writing is an interest that carries me into my later years with passion and purpose. It is in speaking to writers whose journey is for the love of doing not just money that makes me believe it is possible.

It is the journey, not the destination that is important. It isn’t just about publishing a novel, but it is also about that. We can spend time fixing, and tweaking, because we don’t want to put our work into the world. It is time to put in the work to make it as good as I can and then release it. Then write something else. Paul Stegweit has ten books on his website, he started writing after he retired. That is a big accomplishment.

One of the questions we need to ask ourselves is what do we want to do when we retire? What will a great retirement look like? Is there something we can do in retirement we never had time for that brings passion and purpose into our lives?

And then there is the most dangerous risk of all – the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later. Randy Komisar

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Self-expression and feeding our soul. Connecting with others, and getting ready to put our work out into the world.

Connecting with others, and getting ready to put our work out in to the world. Self-expression and feeding our soul.

Painting by Belynda Wilson Thomas

No amount of self-improvement can make up for any lack of self-acceptance. Robert Holden

Yesterday I didn’t get a post out. I got up late and my daughter seemed to want to talk. We live in the same house but there doesn’t seem to be much time to sit together and talk. She didn’t want to talk about anything, in particular, we just sat with coffees and discussed anything and everything. It was a lovely way to spend a morning.

We need to give the gift of time to people, to spend time with them not when there is an important problem to discuss, but when there is an opportune moment.

My son spent some time in the den with me in the afternoon and we again didn’t discuss anything important. He helped me download a free book from a writer offering help on creating hooks for our books. The price of admission was my email address. I spent the evening reading the eBook and he had helpful and useful information in it. He’s an “Indie” author and quite a successful one named Adam Cross.

I thought the ebook was saved to my desktop but the file is empty. I read it and made some notes, I’ll talk to my son about it today.

Last night I got a call from “the kid up the road” we are facebook friends and even though the news he called about wasn’t good we had a lovely chat. He told me to make sure he gets a copy of my novel.

This is what I wanted when I started the blog and went on facebook, to create an audience. It’s up to me to deliver on my promise of a book. My next step is a professional editor. A cousin is reading my novel now and promises feedback. Another cousin hasn’t given me any feedback yet, and I may have to prod her. Maybe she hates it and doesn’t know how to tell me. Maybe she has a life and reading my book hasn’t fit into it yet.

When you’ve spent your whole life listening to others, it takes courage to pay attention to the sound of your own voice. Unknown

My question is, is it good enough to pay for editing or do I have way more work to do before it gets to that point? I keep having conflicts with my Writers Group and Toastmasters but this time my Writers Group is going to win. I’m getting up the nerve to ask the head of my writer’s group if she will read my novel and give me feedback. The worst she could say is she doesn’t have time. Why have I waited so long to ask her?

The easiest thing in the world is to second guess ourselves. Everyone tells us, just do it, we’ll regret the things we don’t do more than the things we do.

In one of my facebook groups, someone posted a picture of a hand with a fork on the lifeline they call a writer’s fork. I think I have it although it looks more like an X at the end of the lifeline. We look for any sign that we are on the right path. This is probably really bad if we are on a bad path. The thunder told me I must do this thing… could be very, very, bad. There’s a story idea!

Whatever it is we want to do, feel we must do, and are compelled to do unless it is illegal or immoral we should get on with it  One of the reasons I started posting pictures of my paintings is to get over my fear of not being good enough. Public speaking is a way to get over that same fear. Expressing ourselves isn’t about being perfect or profound, but about doing. We don’t know what is in us until we express it and that may be in words, pictures, carvings, plantings, singing, dancing, playing an instrument, sewing, beadwork, building something, or cooking.

Self-expression is a way to say things we don’t know how to say, and that is why some of the most powerful forms of self-expression are not verbal. It is why if words are our way of self-expressing we may choose fiction because it is in fiction we can tell the truth of life how we see it. Fiction is the lie that tells a truth. In fiction, we choose what to leave out and what to put in. We do the same when we say we are writing about events that happened. Is it possible to tell the truth about past events, or current events? We can tell a viewpoint, but that isn’t necessarily the truth.

Are we finding ways to express ourselves? Are we doing things that feed our souls?

Be not afraid of growing slowly; be afraid only of standing still. Chinese proverb

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Lie That Tells a Truth Paperback – Aug 10 2004

by John Dufresne (Author) 4.4 out of 5 stars 6 ratings


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Telling our stories. We need to hear other people’s stories. Don’t we all love a story?

Don't we all love a story? Telling our stories. We need to hear other people's stories.

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Story as it turns out, was crucial to our evolution – more so than our opposable thumbs. Opposable thumbs let us hang on; story told us what to hang on to. Lisa Cron

Last night I pulled out a sketchbook that I had written a story about our beloved dog in. I’m going to read it at my Writer’s Group today and see if it can be included in a Children’s anthology put out by The Writer’s Group.

When we write our stories, even if only for ourselves is it worth it? Sometimes we express things in stories we don’t know how else to express. If these thoughts and emotions never get expressed they can lead to problems in our lives. All creative projects may be this way; we can express things that are left unexpressed any other way.

Everyone has a story, every story is different, and every life is different.  We have been telling stories through the ages. Sometimes it seems we are only consumers of other people’s stories in song, film, TV. We leave out our own stories at our peril. Families need to know our stories, so we can understand and appreciate each other more. So we can pass on knowledge so hard won.

When we give voice to what is inside of us, it is good for us, it is good for our families and wider communities.

This is my children’s story about our dog.

There Was a Dog Named Krypto

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“Can we get a puppy?” three-year-old Alanna asked her mother.

“When you are older,” her mother replied.

“Am I old enough this year?” four-year-old Alanna asked.

“Not yet,” her mother replied.

“When will I be old enough so we can get a puppy?” Alanna asked Mommy and Daddy.

“Six years old,” they said.

Before her sixth birthday Mommy and Daddy said, “Let’s go look at a puppy.”

Alanna, Aaron, Mommy, and Daddy got in the car. They drove and they drove, and they drove, and they drove.

Alanna didn’t say, “Are we there yet?”

Aaron didn’t say, “Are we there yet?”

Daddy said, “Aren’t we there, yet?”

Mommy called the breeder, “Oh, you’re almost here.”

So they drove and drove.

Finally, Daddy said, “We get the puppy, or we don’t get the puppy, but we are not coming back.”

It was dark by the time they pulled into the yard. A lady and three black puppies were walking on the lawn.

The fattest one walked up to Mommy. He had a big head and little short legs, a wagedy tail, two little sharp ears, and round black eyes.

They held each one of the puppies, but they held the biggest, fattest one the longest.

“His name is bear,” the breeder said. “He’s the pick of the litter.”

Mommy looked at Daddy. Daddy looked at Mommy.

Aaron and Alanna held their breath.

Mommy and Daddy nodded and said, “We’ll take him.”

Mommy held Bear all the way home, he didn’t make a sound, but when he was put in a box by himself, he cried.

The next day Daddy said, “His name should be Krypto.”

Mommy said, “His name should be Angus.”

Aaron said, “His name should be King.

Alanna said, “His name should be Scottie.”

One day they were all sitting in the den with Krypto at their feet when they saw he’d chewed a hole in the carpet.

“Bad boy,” Mommy said.

“Bad boy,” Daddy said.

“Bad boy,” Aaron said.

“Bad boy,” Alanna said.

Krypto hung his little head as if he knew he’d been naughty.

When the neighbors came over to see the new puppy, Aaron said. “He’s really cute now, but he grows up to be ugly.

He grew up to be handsome with his pointy ears, his beard, and his shaggy eyebrows over his little round black eyes.

He cocked his head with one ear up and one ear down looking like he understood every word that was said.

One day Aaron hugged Krypto, and said, “No one understands me but you Krypto.

When Mommy tucked Aaron and Alanna into bed after story time and gave them each a kiss, sometimes she would see Krypto snuggled in under the covers. He knew he wasn’t supposed to be there so he was quiet as a mouse.

Alanna got hit by a car while riding her bike. When Mommy and Daddy went running out to see if she was okay so did Krypto. When he saw she was okay, he kept running all the way to the park.

Every Halloween Krypto would go out with Mommy, Aaron, and Alanna until Aaron and Alanna were too old for Halloween.

Alanna and Aaron grew big and strong. They finished grade school, they finished middle school, and they finished high school.

Krypto was always at the door to meet them when they got home.

Krypto could hardly walk, hardly see, and his hearing wasn’t very good. But, he would still sit with one ear cocked looking like he understood everything that was being said.

Daddy started thinking it’s time to say goodbye.

Aaron started thinking it’s time to say goodbye.

Alanna started thinking it’s time to say goodbye.

Mommy started thinking it’s time to say goodbye.

Until one day they all agreed Krypto looked like it was time to say goodbye.

The vet was as nice as she could be. “I’m glad we can offer this service, so they don’t have to suffer,” she said.

“Krypto we love you,” Daddy said.

Krypto we love you,” Aaron said.

Krypto we love you,” Alanna said.

Krypto we love you,” Mommy said.

Krypto looked at them with his round black eyes. Then he closed them for the last time.

We miss you, Krypto.

After nourishment, shelter, and companionship stories are the thing we need most in the world. Philip Pullman

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by W. Bruce Cameron (Author) 4.7 out of 5 stars 144 customer reviewsBook 1 of 3 in the A Dog’s Purpose Series


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