New experiences, old celebrations. Seeing things through the eyes of a child helps us see old things as if they are new again.

Painting by Belynda Wilson Thomas

Look at everything as though you are seeing it for the first time, with eyes of a child, fresh with wonder. Joseph Cornell

Today is Halloween and at Toastmasters last Thursday I learned for some new immigrants that came to Canada as children, Halloween was the celebration they felt they could fit in with everyone else. They too could have a costume and trick or treat without differences being front and center.

One of the things we most want in life is to belong. We celebrate differently and have different celebrations but these sometimes divide us instead of bringing us together. When our sports teams are doing well we rally around them all hoping for victory and feeling oneness as we are joined in supporting our team.

On Friday, my husband and I attended a cross-cultural, cross-religion wedding/nikah. It was a wonderful celebration for a couple starting their journey as a married couple. One of the beautiful ceremonies was the bride’s father placed a green belt around the bride’s waist signifying she must prepare for her new life.

One of the reasons we have celebrations around life transitions is to help us prepare for the change in our life. Weddings, births, and deaths are significant transitions where life will never be the same again. We are happy to share our joy and need to share our sorrow to get through the transitions of life.

Never lose an opportunity of seeing anything beautiful, for beauty is God’s handwriting. Ralph Waldo Emerson

Tonight my daughter and I will take her son out for his first Halloween. We won’t get candy (what does a six-month-old need candy for), but we will be out in the hustle and bustle enjoying the fun. I was the one that took the kids out trick or treating and it was the end of a happy tradition when they were past trick-and-treating age. Often my daughter’s friends came with us; one year some of the friends thought it would be more fun on their own, so off they went, soon returning when they realized they had more fun in our little group.  

Now it is time for new traditions as our grandson experiences each new celebration. We will take out our Cock-a-poo, Lulu, this evening. We used to be out trick or treating accompanied by our Scottie, Krypto. Life changes and we have to change with it. It won’t be long before our grandson won’t still be trick and treating, or he won’t live close enough to us to see him at Halloween, especially when it is on a weeknight. He’ll be dressed as a lion cub tonight, the first of many costumes he’ll wear over the years. This is the year of firsts, and we are enjoying each new thing as he experiences them. We can’t see things as he sees them, but watching him helps us to see things a little differently, and enjoy the small things in life we take for granted.

Having children obviously changes your priorities, but when you start to see life through these innocent eyes and seeing everything for the first time, you appreciate the small things. Nick Cannon

Things are revealed through the memories we have of them. Remembering a thing means seeing it only then for the first time. Cesare Pavese

Sometimes all it takes is a little hand reaching for yours to remind you that these are, without a doubt, the best years of your life. Unknown

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Mother’s Day and motherhood. We are blessed if we have experienced a mother’s love.

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Nothing in life will ever make you as happy, sad, exhausted, or proud as motherhood. Unknown

Yesterday was my daughter’s first Mother’s Day as a mother and my first Mother’s Day as a grandmother. It was a lovely day with our Cherry tree blooming in the backyard, and the Star Magnolia ablaze in blossoms. We made a pancake breakfast and my Mother-In-Law joined us for the day.

My grandson had his great-grandma, grandma, grandpa, mommy, daddy, and later his aunt and uncle enjoying the day. My son’s wedding is less than three weeks away. We went over seating arrangements, who will be giving speeches, and last-minute details.

I gave my grandson a bottle of breast milk while his mom cooked the pancakes. Next Saturday I will be looking after him while she goes to my future daughter-in-law’s bachelorette party. This will be my daughter’s first outing without her son.

My son-in-law holds his son still with a look of awe at this addition to his life. The bonding that is done at this stage in an infant’s life might lay the foundation for future relationships. If our children don’t form strong attachments this can cause severe problems throughout their life. One of the joys of holding my grandson is how intently he gazes back as if we are in a mind-meld.

Motherhood is romanticized but the early bond between mother and child is important and not to be dismissed lightly. We might not have a lot of time to create the bonds that shape our lives.

Being part of a close-knit family is one of the joys in life. They are often messy, raucous, and perfectly imperfect families, but they are ours. No matter how long we are apart when we get together it is fun and filled with laughter, sometimes some angst and tears. We go through life with our families, especially the bond we have with our mother and father color all parts of our life. We never escape the influence of our early years. If we are lucky they set us up for life, love, and future relationships.

Succeeding as a mother is one of the joys of life. We get to see our children take their place in the world. They are ready to create families of their own and the chain continues. Having great parents is one of the biggest blessings in my life as it is in anyone’s life so blessed. If we get the love we need early it sustains us and helps us find relationships that work.

Love is the tie that binds. The redeeming power of love in our lives can be what makes the difference in our lives. We don’t understand why some babies don’t develop a secure attachment to their mothers?

Attachment is a relationship in the service of a baby’s emotion regulation and exploration. It is the deep, abiding confidence a baby has in the availability and responsiveness of the caregiver. Alan Sroufe

A secure attachment has at least three functions. It provides a sense of safety and security. It Regulates emotions, by soothing distress, creating joy, and supporting calm and it offers a secure base from which to explore.

In spite of the long scientific history of attachment, psychologists have done a poor job of communicating what a secure attachment is, and how to create one. There is a difference between a “tight” connection and a secure attachment. A tight attachment – together all the time – might actually be an anxious attachment,” Alan Sroufe explains. He says it isn’t what we do exactly, it is also the caregiver’s orientation and attunement: is the caregiver stressed or calm, checked out or engaged, and are they reading the baby’s signals.

Of course, it isn’t as easy as breastfeeding over the bottle, it is how one feels breastfeeding or bottle-feeding, and the interaction with the baby. What are important researchers tell us is that the baby develops a generalized trust that their caregiver will respond and meet their needs, or that when mismatches occur, the caregiver will repair them (and babies, themselves, will go a long way toward soliciting that repair).

Nothing in life it seems is easy, or simple, and parenting is certainly not. The more we worry about it the worse it might be. We may have to trust ourselves and our babies, enjoy the experience and do the best we can. Enjoying being a parent may be more important than we think. When we can find joy in life, and we are around people who are enjoying life don’t we all feel better?

Motherhood is a forever love story… Enjoy every minute and treasure it. Isa

A mother’s love is more beautiful than any fresh flower. Debasish Mridha

Mother, the ribbons of your love are woven around my heart. Anonymous

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Are we grateful for the little things? The little things we take for granted are the big things.

We often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude. Cynthis Ozick

Things can change in an instant. Everything is going along even if not merrily, it is rolling along. Then we get the phone call, someone is in the hospital or didn’t even make it to the hospital. Whatever it is, it catches us off guard.

Start each day with a positive thought and a grateful heart. Roy T. Bennett

I sit here today as a grateful grandma. Have a happy Easter. As we gather together this Easter we will feel even a little more blessed to share time with each and every person at our table.

Things turn out best for people who make the best out of the way things turn out. John Wooden

Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things. Robert Brault

I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought, and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder. Gilbert K. Chesterton

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Born on a Monday? Waiting for glorious news our grandbaby has come into the world.

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Birth is the epicenter of women’s power. Ani DiFranco

I’m pretty sure our grandbaby will arrive before the day is out. Do we wait for our grandbaby’s arrival with as much or more anticipation as our own children? Every woman who has a baby has a story to tell. The hero’s journey for women is pregnancy and birth. For women in the past, this journey was fraught with much more danger than it is today. It is a journey that tests us, remakes, us, and through which we grow into mothers.

We can’t go through traumatic experiences without changing and growing and pregnancy and birth are one of, if not the ultimate experience. My daughter will now have her war story. Her moment of thinking I can’t do this; it’s too much for me. A dark night of the soul takes us from one phase of life into another. Becoming a mother surely fits the definition of a deeper perception of life and growth into a new state of being.

Most women get through the birth process with the object of their desire, a beautiful baby to hold, and a feeling of lightness in their body again. They can walk more easily, and be able to see their feet.

The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. Osho

I’ve been thinking of the old nursery rhyme.

Monday’s child is fair of face. Tuesday’s child is full of grace. Wednesday’s child is full of woe. Thursday’s child has far to go. Friday’s child is loving and giving. Saturday’s child works hard for a living, and the child born on the Sabbath day is bonny and blithe, and good and gay.

Here is another one:

Monday for health, Tuesday for wealth, Wednesday best day of all, Thursday for crosses, Friday for losses, Saturday no luck at all. He who is born on the day of rest in health and fortune has the best.

My husband and I were Sunday babies, my daughter a Tuesday baby, and her husband a Friday baby. We often seem concerned with the future instead of letting things unfold as they will. We know the sex of the baby because we have the technology to tell us such things.

We can’t visit them at the hospital but we can talk on the phone and get pictures instantly. They don’t usually stay in the hospital long so I can hold him in my arms soon. I have my phone beside me waiting for the call that he has arrived.

I would have loved to be with my daughter during this process but at least her husband is able to be with her. There is no experience like bringing new life into the world, and there is nothing as promising as a new life with all that lies before it.

There is a power that comes to women when they give birth. They don’t ask for it, it simply invades them. Accumulates like clouds on the horizon and passes through, carrying the child with it. Sheryl Feldman

A woman in birth is at once her most powerful, and most vulnerable. But any woman who has birthed unhindered understands that we are stronger than we know. Marcie Macari

Giving birth and being born brings us into the essence of creation, where the human spirit is courageous and bold and the body, a miracle of wisdom. Harriette Hartigan

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Happy New Year with all the promise it brings. Have you found your passion in life? Do you trust the magic of beginnings?

Have you found your passion in life? Do you trust the magic of new beginnings? Happy New Year with all the promise it brings.

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The best time for new beginnings, is now. Unknown

Yesterday my husband and I were watching an uplifting TV show. One woman built a cupcake business with the last five dollars she had, and the order for cupcakes from her neighbor across the street.

A woman lost 200 lbs in eighteen months and became fit and active after living her entire life overweight.

A man at seventy was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease and started painting fourteen years ago. He wanted to be an artist but his dean told him anybody could spit on a canvas and call it modern art. He calls himself The Parkinson Painter and his work sells upwards of $20,000. He’s also written a book, “Spit on A Canvas: The Journey of a Parkinson’s Painter,” by Norman Greenstein. He got a new lease on life when he took up painting. He could have thought what can I do, I have Parkinson’s. Instead, he says, “I only have Parkinson’s.” His message is simple: don’t give up – do what you can, and then do more.

There are inspiring stories everywhere of people taking their life in their hands and doing what they can. There are so many heartbreaking stories out there but aren’t we all inspired when people turn heartbreak into something good. They turn their scars into stars, what could keep them down they find a way to use to boost themselves up.

He didn’t start painting thinking he could sell his paintings for $20,000.00 he might not have thought any would ever sell. The woman with the cupcakes didn’t know the order from her neighbor was the beginning of an empire. The woman who lost 200 pounds didn’t know where her journey would take her and is looking forward to what the future brings.

The beginning of a New Year is a great time to start something new and set some goals. Often big accomplishments don’t start with a big goal; they start with a small decision and making a change in a new direction. Small steps lead to big things. We don’t need to know if picking up a paintbrush, lacing up our runners, or singing in a choir will take us somewhere. If we have something we have longed to do, something calling our name, some adventure we want to take, we can start where we are, take small steps, and see where it leads.

And suddenly you know: It’s time to start something new and trust the magic of beginnings. Meister Eckhart

When we see someone trying something maybe we can place one of the first orders that boost them toward success. It isn’t about selling a painting for $20,000.00 although that is nice, it’s about painting and finding the joy in life. We are now hearing about Norman Greenstein and his success but he’s been painting for fourteen years. The cupcake business has been going for thirteen years. Where can we be if we put ten, fifteen, or twenty years into something?

And now we welcome the new year, full of things that have never been. Rainer Maria Rilke

Change can be scary, but you know what’s scarier? Allowing fear to stop you from growing, evolving, and progressing. Mandy Hale

Man is never alone. Acknowledged or unacknowledged, that which dreams through him is always there to support him from within. Laurens van des Post

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New beginnings have magic in them. Happy New Year with all the hope and promise it brings.

Happy New Year with all the hope and promise it brings. New beginnings have magic in them.

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The magic in new beginnings is truly the most powerful of them all. Josiyah Martin

For those of us that celebrate Christmas, it is over for another season, but the reason for Christmas is with us always. The reason for Christmas may not be the same for each of us, but it gives each of us something. Is it a lift in the midst of dark and dreary, hope for mankind, a time to meet, mingle, and connect with loved ones? Whatever it is we get from Christmas it happens because someone makes it happen.

Most gifts don’t magically appear under the tree although we are told some do. The biggest gifts are the gifts of the spirit, we are a little warmer at Christmas. We go out of our way for others and feel good about it. We are more generous, kind, and forgiving. Christmas brings out the best in us.

How does it feel for those who don’t celebrate? Do they get caught up in the hustle and bustle that takes over our lives and shopping malls? Do they get caught up in the gaiety and excess of Christmas? Even if we don’t all believe in Christmas a New Year is coming for all of us. We may not all recognize January 1st as the beginning of a new year but it is the calendar most of us follow. Aren’t we looking forward to a new year with all the hope and promise it brings? Who will we help on their journey this year, who will help us?

A candle loses nothing of its light by lighting another candle. James Keller

A new year is a time to set goals, plot our course, and set our sails towards the future we hope to achieve. Do we have big dreams for this New Year or small victories we hope to achieve? Are we willing to speak our goals or keep them quiet? Sometimes we keep our goals to ourselves because we aren’t sure how to articulate them, are afraid of failure, or aren’t fully formed yet. It isn’t always important for others to know what our goals are as long as not telling others doesn’t keep us from going after them.

Some of us have goals that require a lot of work and commitment. We have to be willing to put in the work if the goal is to come to fruition. As long as we have control over moving toward a goal we can break it down into steps to make it happen. Sometimes our goal, dream, wish, hope, and prayer depend on the stars aligning. We don’t have any control over whether our children get married and start a family although for most of us this is one of our prayers, hopes, and dreams as parents.

Many parts of life are beyond our control but we have dreams, hopes, and prayers for them. As we go into this New Year our hearts are full of hope for health, happiness, abundance, and joy. Wishing you every joy in this New Year almost upon us.

Although no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. Carl Bard

Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end. Seneca

We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year’s Day. Edith Lovejoy Pierce

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Happy Thanksgiving Day! Can we count our blessings every day and live each day with a grateful heart?

Can we count our blessings every day and live each day with a grateful heart? Happy Thanksgiving Day!

Painting by Belynda Wilson Thomas

Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance. Eckhart Tolle.

Happy Thanksgiving Day. We have so much to be thankful for. We all have some problems, sometimes they can be overwhelming but if we can find and focus on what we have to be grateful for instead of the problems, life is better.

We are more fun to be around when we see the sunny side of life. Gratitude magnifies the good in our life and ingratitude magnifies the bad. If we get what we focus on then choosing what we focus on is very important.

Is it easy to be grateful when we live in a land of peace and plenty? I hear a lot of grumbling and even grumble myself some days.

The opposite of lack is abundance. Having a grateful mindset doesn’t mean we have everything we want, it means we are grateful for everything we have. How often have we said we can’t afford something when we mean we don’t choose to buy it? Are we grateful we have the choice? I’ve heard people lament over the amount of choice they have in the marketplace. Really, this is a complaint because with all that choice we don’t know what to choose.

When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around. Willie Nelson

We are told to focus on what we want and be grateful for what we have. Living this way makes the best of what we have and the future. This makes sense. There are times in my life when I wanted to be a writer but I didn’t want to focus on it because then I had to act on it. I would be accountable for the amount of writing I did or didn’t do. We can’t call ourselves a writer if we don’t write. I don’t feel bad that I focused on the kids and not my writing because now I focus on my writing and the kids (adults) can focus on and manage their own lives.

It is a joy to have art and writing to focus on in this stage of life. Creativity may be an antidote to some of the negativity that is being focused on. Is it good to live in our own little bubble of positivity? Dealing with only what is ours to deal with? If we do our civic duty and vote then isn’t it the job of the people voted in to run the country to the best of their ability and if we let them do that it may be better for everyone. Why wring our hands over decisions that aren’t ours to make when we have so much of our own business to manage. Business, that often doesn’t get managed when we are trying to manage everyone else’s. What if we each got our own house in order before criticizing others? What if we are thankful for all the abundance in our lives?

Don’t we feel grateful every morning when we turn on the tap, flush the toilet, make coffee, or cook something? Just think what it would have taken for all of those things to happen not that many years ago. Many of us haven’t lived with having to haul water, go to an outhouse, or start a fire before cooking. It isn’t that many years ago that was the reality of life. Most of us don’t have to kill something before we can eat.

Sometimes we worry about what the future holds, but the future for many of us has gotten better and better? We are problem solvers and if we each solve the problems in front of us and let others solve the problems in front of them, we will continue to move forward making life better.

Worrying doesn’t do anything but being grateful for what we have, that’s a game-changer.

It is better to light a candle, than to curse the darkness. Chinese Proverb

When you focus on what you lack you lose what you have. When you focus on what you have you get what you lack. George McKeown

The thankful heart opens our eyes to a multitude of blessings that continually surround us. James A. Faust

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Happy Canada Day!

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Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant. Robert Louis Stevenson

Today dawns overcast with raindrops glistening on the leaves. I’ve always loved Canada Day. Being Canadian is being part of something, a great experiment, an idea, and a promise.

We cannot see the world through someone else’s eyes. We see through our eyes and everything that has happened in our life colors that vision. I grew up in Saskatchewan with big beautiful skies, glorious sunsets, and wide-open spaces. I rode my horse with the wind in my hair and a song in my heart. It was an idyllic childhood in a large loving family on a farm, in a valley, near a small town. Why was I in such a hurry to leave? I don’t have an answer to that question even though I have been asking it for over forty years. I was compelled to leave that warm wonderful incubator like a freshly hatched chick who didn’t know what adventures or misadventures she might meet, but like the fool in the tarot deck went off to seek adventure.

My quest for adventure didn’t take me far. I never become the world traveler, never back-packed across Europe, or saw the seven wonders. My husband and I have built a wonderful, happy, loving family. We have a business that keeps body and soul together but never affords the rich life we dreamed of when we started. Maybe striving toward a goal is better than reaching it too quickly, or is that what those who don’t reach their goals say? On the farm, my parents always said, “This is next year country.”

The law of harvest is to reap more than you sow.  Sow an act, and reap a habit: Sow a habit, and you reap a character: Sow a character, and you reap a destiny. James Allen

Living in next year country is a great way to live. No matter how good this year is, or how bad, we must prepare to make next year as good or better. We need to get our seeds ready for planting for next year’s crop even if this is the best crop we’ve ever harvested. On a farm there is no resting on one’s laurels and nor is there in the rest of life. We always need a new goal when an old goal is reached.

If we want to pick a watermelon on a hot day we better have thought about that when we were planting our garden. Of course, we are so blessed in most parts of Canada we can go to the supermarket and buy whatever we want without planting anything at all. Even if we don’t literally eat what we sow the law of sowing and reaping is evident in our lives. We do not get to ignore the law of sowing and reaping because we live in the city and not on a farm. Even the thoughts we think are subject to the law of sowing and reaping. Our mind is a garden our thoughts are the seeds, we can plant flowers or we can plant weeds is a cute little saying but if we take it to heart it may help us monitor the flowers and weeds of our thoughts. 

This Canada Day it seems we are on the brink of getting back to normalcy. That means different things to different sectors, different people, and different businesses.

I’ve sat on a grassy knoll and watched fireworks with my husband, family, and friends beside me. People from everywhere part of the experience of watching fireworks go off celebrating Canada Day. If we were lucky and the line wasn’t too long we would get ice cream. A band would play before the fireworks and we would feel oneness with those around us, experiencing what we were experiencing and watching what we were watching.

This year the local fireworks celebration doesn’t look like it is happening. It was always a crowded event and social distancing is still the order of the day.

Wherever you are, have a wonderful day. If Canada is your home, was your home, or is a home you dream of, it is partly a dream we hold in our hearts for all of us. Canada is a Camelot that we are building, a story we are telling ourselves and a reality we are living. We are not all telling ourselves the same story, we are not all living the same reality, but we are all under the same sky with the same sun, stars, and the same moon and the hope that tomorrow will be better than today or at least not worse.

One of the great joys in life is picking the flowers we’ve planted. When we harvest bitter fruit we need to go forward better.

Happy Canada Day!

You always reap what you sow; there is no shortcut. Stephen R. Covey

Words are seeds they do more than blow around they land in our hearts and not the ground. Be careful what you plant and careful what you say. You might have to eat what you planted one day. Unknown

Good or bad you will always reap what you sow – you will always harvest the consequences of your choices. Randy Alcorn

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Fathers are our unsung heroes the builders of our society, and pillars of our lives.

Fathers are our unsung heroes, the pillars of our lives, and builders of our society.

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Dads are most ordinary men turned by love into heroes, adventurers, story-tellers, and singers of song. Pam Brown

Yesterday was Father’s Day and we ended up celebrating it twice. It is sad when we no longer have our fathers to celebrate with, call, or visit. That is a reality that will come to all of us in time. We aren’t all lucky enough to have had time with our fathers because of circumstances beyond our control. There is no other way to look at it than we missed out.

I’m one of the lucky ones. I was blessed with a great mom and dad. Some people have the idea that we shouldn’t celebrate because not everyone has someone in their lives to celebrate. Father’s and Mother’s Days aren’t only about the reality in our lives but the potential. Even if we didn’t have the best role model in our life we can be the best in our children’s or even in other people’s children’s lives.

How someone else conducted themselves, we can’t control. We may wish they were different but they were or are who they are. What we have control over is ourselves and how we navigate our world. We can encourage, uplift, look on the bright side, and accept the difficulties of life with grace. We can be an example of not giving up when the going gets tough. We can be an example of pursuing dreams so others will believe they can pursue their dreams also.

We can be good friends, co-workers, and family members. We can be up-lifters, encouragers, and happy people who live our lives with grace and gratitude. We can make time for others and invite them for dinner, conversation, and laughs.

Is there anything as wonderful as sharing a meal with family surrounded by the warm glow of conversation and laughter? We’ve had two evenings of this sitting outside enjoying being together. Spring turns into summer today and just as it isn’t noticeable as the seasons change from day to day the seasons of our lives change.

By the time a man realizes that maybe his father was right, he usually has a son who thinks he’s wrong. Charles Wadsworth

We were children, then young adults, new parents, parents of adult children, and soon we hope grandparents. Some of us are lucky enough to have our grandparents in our lives for a long time. Some of us hardly knew our grandparents; some of us hardly knew or didn’t know our parents.

We can think life isn’t fair when we don’t get what someone else got. In my art class on Saturday, it was led by a young woman who is sight-impaired. She is an artist and sees the world differently. She is making the most of her abilities by producing beautiful art and teaching others to do the same.

If we don’t make the most of what we have and instead focus on what we don’t have how does that serve us? It doesn’t make us get what we want; it just makes us not appreciate what we do have. What we don’t have maybe abilities, family, assets, or belonging to groups, but we can make the best of what we have. People who make the best of what they have inspired us.

Father’s Day can be sad if we no longer have our father or it can be happy because we remember him and appreciate all he did for us. If he wasn’t in our life maybe someone else took the father role. When it became our turn we can be a good father or do our best to choose a good father for our children.

As women, this is one of the biggest decisions of our lives. Who will father our children? As men what kind of father will we be? We watch our children make these choices and if we are lucky we will watch our grandchildren make their choices. Some are even lucky to see great-grandchildren make these choices. This is the legacy we leave behind.

As we celebrate the fathers in our lives, the unsung heroes, the builders of our society, and the pillars of our lives we are blessed. It is our job to be blessings to those coming after us.

What makes you a man is not the ability to make a child, it’s the courage to raise one. Barack Obama

The quality of a father can be seen in the goals, dreams and aspirations he sets not only for himself, but for his family. Reed Markham

A good father is one of the most unsung, unpraised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society. Billy Graham

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Enjoy the moments that make up your life. Dwell on the beauty of life.

Dwell on the beauty of life. Enjoy the moments that make up your life.

Painting by Belynda Wilson Thomas

A good life is a collection of happy moments. Denis Waitley

Mother’s Day is past and for some, it was a hard day. It might have been hard because this year they couldn’t see their mother because they were keeping their distance. Some people couldn’t see their mother because she is no longer alive. Some people never grew up with their mother because of death or circumstance.  Some people have strained relationships with their mothers. Yesterday was a reminder of their failure to heal the breach and create a good relationship.

Yesterday my Mother-in-law, husband, daughter, and I went for a walk in a park beside a rippling river with trees and flowers in bloom. It was a wonderful day full of warmth, love, companionship, and laughter. We ate ice cream in the fresh air. My son and daughter cooked dinner and we drank wine and laughed.

I called Mom and we had a wonderful conversation. I called to order flowers from a florist I’ve built a relationship with, in the city Mom lives. She told me even though she bought more flowers than last year she could take no more orders for flower arrangements. Instead of a bouquet, I had them deliver a hibiscus plant. When it arrived it was full of buds and when I spoke to Mom on Mother’s Day four salmon-colored flowers had opened up.

I’m thankful for today’s little moments because they are tomorrow’s precious memories. Unknown

On Saturday a friend and I went for a long walk. We talked about the long-distance relationship with our parents. We both left home at a young age. We marveled at some of the conversations we have had over the phone that never seemed to happen when we were sitting at the same table. The immediacy of the phone call created an intimate relationship that physical closeness did not.

Moments in our lives are fleeting. We need to enjoy them while we can. Go for that walk in the park with someone you love. Hold their hand as you stand on a bridge over a babbling brook. Lean your head on their shoulder as you watch a sunset. Give them a hug. Make the moments count. They are moments that will not come again. You will never watch that sunset again. You will never go for the same walk. You will never eat the same dinner with the same wine, and the same laughter.  

Are we dwelling on the beauty of life and enjoying the moments?

We’re so busy watching out for what’s just ahead of us that we don’t take time to enjoy where we are. Bill Watterson

If you worry too much about the future you will miss the present. Unknown

Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in our hearts. Winnie The Pooh

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